I hate that I am back here again having to ask for help but...
Since my last posts much drama has happened leading to:
The entire side of my husbands family is on TO (him) and CO from me & my son. I never formally CO them it is just an understood. They do not contact me and I do not contact them, under any circumstances even death of a family member.They have been advised *(if interested please ask for details) to not call or text us. (We do not have any social media and didn't think to say don't send us fucking mail.)
My son is 6 weeks old. We received a "Baby's First Halloween" card in the mail from (evil)MIL addressed to my son without a return address. It had handwritten shit from family members. One of the notes said "I hope to meet you someday. I love you more than you know. There are lots of people over here that love you."
The theme remained the same throughout the notes just less wordy. Other than MIL these people have never fucking met my child. (And never fucking will.) As much as I wanted to RTS or Shred it I did not do anything with the card just left it on the counter for husband to see. He didn't know if it was a good thing or a bad thing. He was so irritated with the card that he just tossed it. But, he is now doubting that it was "that bad."
Will you please help me put into words why this situation is "bad".... And if it is not "bad" then please correct me.