I've never posted on DWIL but I have lurked for quite a while. This won't be to long of a story though.
I'm currently pregnant with our 2nd child, IL'S 8th grand child. Our son is 2yo and MIL came with us along with my parents to find out the gender the first time. We then announced it on facebook for the rest of family and friends. Well this time DH requested it just be the two of us to find out the gender and have that experience together since this is most likely our last child. We had told people we were going to do announcements, family pictures, that sort of thing, just our nuclear family. So we find out earlier this week, get the pictures done, and I put out a blog post and shared that with facebook. We didn't tell ANYONE privately, in person, or text or whatever you can think of, we decided we wanted to do announcements and tell everyone that way, my parents included.
Well guess who decides to throw a fit about how they found out the gender. Granted it's another boy. We explained to them, DH and I, both explained that this is how everyone found out so there were no other issues. They go on to say "well we're not everyone, we deserve to be told in person" blah blah blah. We told them from the get go the announcements were how we were choosing to share the gender, so they shouldn't have expected any differently.
A side story: when we found out we were pregnant, it was unexpected, we waited two months before telling anyone, and then shared that news in person, well because SIL was too busy to make time to see us, she eventually found out from fb, got upset, got IL'S involved and it was a big cluster fuck that got resolved quickly. Also IL'S got irritated we didn't tell them right away 😒
Back to the issue. They were bitching at us about how they found out the gender, and at this point, I'm over the BS. I'm over them being controlling and acting entitled and making snide remarks. When I told them everyone found out that way including my mother their response was "well we're not your mother and we expect more than that" or some shit along those lines, and I snapped. There are many other issues, that have nothing to do with this story, but have helped build an intolerance and irritated attitude towards them.
DH backed up everything I said and I backed him up. They now expect we update them with every appt, and want to see is directly after my RCS, which we've decided we want a good amount of time to bond together as a nuclear family before other people come around, and I know that wont go over well. This is such a petty issue that got blown out of proportion.
I don't feel like I owe them anything more than what we give. I don't know if I'm overreacting by wanting a TO because I'm just so over this crap, and won't keep quiet anymore, or if our decision for a TO is the right way to go.
I'm currently pregnant with our 2nd child, IL'S 8th grand child. Our son is 2yo and MIL came with us along with my parents to find out the gender the first time. We then announced it on facebook for the rest of family and friends. Well this time DH requested it just be the two of us to find out the gender and have that experience together since this is most likely our last child. We had told people we were going to do announcements, family pictures, that sort of thing, just our nuclear family. So we find out earlier this week, get the pictures done, and I put out a blog post and shared that with facebook. We didn't tell ANYONE privately, in person, or text or whatever you can think of, we decided we wanted to do announcements and tell everyone that way, my parents included.
Well guess who decides to throw a fit about how they found out the gender. Granted it's another boy. We explained to them, DH and I, both explained that this is how everyone found out so there were no other issues. They go on to say "well we're not everyone, we deserve to be told in person" blah blah blah. We told them from the get go the announcements were how we were choosing to share the gender, so they shouldn't have expected any differently.
A side story: when we found out we were pregnant, it was unexpected, we waited two months before telling anyone, and then shared that news in person, well because SIL was too busy to make time to see us, she eventually found out from fb, got upset, got IL'S involved and it was a big cluster fuck that got resolved quickly. Also IL'S got irritated we didn't tell them right away 😒
Back to the issue. They were bitching at us about how they found out the gender, and at this point, I'm over the BS. I'm over them being controlling and acting entitled and making snide remarks. When I told them everyone found out that way including my mother their response was "well we're not your mother and we expect more than that" or some shit along those lines, and I snapped. There are many other issues, that have nothing to do with this story, but have helped build an intolerance and irritated attitude towards them.
DH backed up everything I said and I backed him up. They now expect we update them with every appt, and want to see is directly after my RCS, which we've decided we want a good amount of time to bond together as a nuclear family before other people come around, and I know that wont go over well. This is such a petty issue that got blown out of proportion.
I don't feel like I owe them anything more than what we give. I don't know if I'm overreacting by wanting a TO because I'm just so over this crap, and won't keep quiet anymore, or if our decision for a TO is the right way to go.