OK so to start this out I have an extremly hard time keeping house. I believe I'm a mild hoarder and recently got my ass in gear and have been actively tossing junk that was purchased by well intentioned family but it was just adding clutter to my home. I ended up tossing over 100 bags of items I had no use for. My mother is the worst of my family who buys my kids collector items... (tin toys, dolls from different states, die-cast metal cars etc) my other family buys junky load toys that just get thrown in boxes and adds to it being harder on me to keep straight. So I'm now 3 months into my new attitude on junk. My house has been easy to mange by keeping minimal stuff and I've alerted my family of my struggle and asked them to give my kids gifts of time (movies zoo trip day at the park sleepover etc) , or gifts off a list , or gift cards or money.... my mother flipped and said she will continue to get my kids what she wants and how appalled she is I tossed all the stuff she bought my kids over the years...my sisters and me are usually on the same side of my mom's outbursts and agree she's crazy...But my sisters said while they'll respect what I'm asking giftwise they think it's kind of crappy I don't want my mom getting the kids what she wants to. I agree her gifts are cool and unique.... But I just can't deal with extra stuff... and I also informed my family that anyone who buys a collector gift the item will be opened and I will allow my kids to play with it... I'm not saving things in boxes any longer. Was I rude to request this for gifts? Or should my family just deal and respect it. Also wanted to point out my kids birthdays are also in November December and january... so our house gets insane around winter and I don't want to backside with clutter
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