My own mom annoys me. I hate myself for saying that because everytime I try to explain this I just sound like a snotty b. But, I've heard you ladies help with giving advice on pushy grandparents or can set my ass straight if I'm the one being ridiculous.
My mom and I have fought more in my adult years than we ever did. They are here visiting me and my family for the week and I'm uncovering more of my triggers. I want to know how to either a. Get over myself, let her be her and move on or b. Confront her, prepare for conflict (mostly the passive aggressive kind which will include receivibg the silent treatment until I'm convinced that I'M a horrible person)
The main things that set me off involve my kids and her love/obsession with them. I don't know if I'd feel the same if anyone else did this with my kids or if it's just an annoyance with her but she's the loud, obnoxious baby talking, doting grandma who says things like, "ohhhh come to Grammy I make it better" or the occasional, "oh what did that mean Ole mommy do" (to my baby not the older kids). I also seriously believe she would do things behind my back that I've asked her not to (like feeding them foods I've said not to). But I don't have any proof of this, I just don't trust her especially because we argue about parenting half the time!
Anyway, she lives 3 k mi away. She would drop anything and do anything for me if I needed... she loves me. Anyway, what do I do... lay it on me
My mom and I have fought more in my adult years than we ever did. They are here visiting me and my family for the week and I'm uncovering more of my triggers. I want to know how to either a. Get over myself, let her be her and move on or b. Confront her, prepare for conflict (mostly the passive aggressive kind which will include receivibg the silent treatment until I'm convinced that I'M a horrible person)
The main things that set me off involve my kids and her love/obsession with them. I don't know if I'd feel the same if anyone else did this with my kids or if it's just an annoyance with her but she's the loud, obnoxious baby talking, doting grandma who says things like, "ohhhh come to Grammy I make it better" or the occasional, "oh what did that mean Ole mommy do" (to my baby not the older kids). I also seriously believe she would do things behind my back that I've asked her not to (like feeding them foods I've said not to). But I don't have any proof of this, I just don't trust her especially because we argue about parenting half the time!
Anyway, she lives 3 k mi away. She would drop anything and do anything for me if I needed... she loves me. Anyway, what do I do... lay it on me