There is no normal

We're LC, husband did therapy, we are tight and trying to maintain civil LC. We've seen then 3 times this year, twice in public. All for an hour. Every. Single. interaction. has been one infraction after another. MIL with attempted redo birthdays (shut down), Over gifting (bin), is pretend wolf whistling a kid sexualisation or am I BEC? Encouraging secrets (discussed later). Getting in their faces about talking more, kisses etc. Asking a child to pass messages to another child. Then there was GPR threat, in front of a child. Brother in law is a totally on board FM with name calling in front of kids (to me), and FIL doesnt speak even though he's physically there at the visit. I think we're going NC for a while but I'm expecting a pudding tantrum, I may need guidance