I need some advice. I'm at my wit's end with my mom. She has just turned so nasty with me lately.
I'm the oldest of three children. I've always been independent. I've always been a good daughter. Never in trouble, decent grades, had a job starting at 16. I've always worked hard for everything. I moved out at 19. My parents were poor and I did not go to college so I had to get a full time job at my moms insistence, and I happily did. I was successful at my jobs. I ended up moving two states away for my work. My brother and sister live much closer.
I got married young and my marriage was abusive. Emotionally and psychologically. Everybody could see it but me. My parents rarely came to visit me and never once talked to me about how I was treated or any offers to help. I had no access to money and I had no way out of my marriage other than to go to a shelter. I have a son and could never take him to a place like that. I finally after years of saving got out. I'm back in school and graduating college in May!! I'm so excited. I've even met the man of my dreams. He treats me and my son incredibly well.
My parents consigned $250k in loans for my sister, paid for my brothers college degrees. They both got nice cars at 16. I paid for my own. Neither of them had jobs. And I have never said a word about it. I just have always wanted their love and approval.
I had a miscarriage in October. My mom was not even happy for me when I told her I was pregnant. I'm financially stable. I have no debt. My car and house are paid for. One day I was just really upset about my body acting weird after the miscarriage. I called my mom to calm me down and for support. Instead she told me to pull myself together and that I had anger issues and I needed counseling. It's been downhill ever since. They cancelled their trip here for Thanksgiving and I get mean horrible texts from her about what an awful person I am. I am heartbroken.
This is not the first incident in my life with her. There's so much more to the story but I think I could write a book. I finally told her after a random mean text to stop and I would not engage with her anymore. I feel awful for my son who loves his grandparents, but the hurt I have endured from her my entire life has to stop at some point. I told her I just wanted to get last things and she said we can't get past things until she gets to the bottom of this. What bottom? I called for support, you told me I had issues. Do I just cut her out forever?
I'm the oldest of three children. I've always been independent. I've always been a good daughter. Never in trouble, decent grades, had a job starting at 16. I've always worked hard for everything. I moved out at 19. My parents were poor and I did not go to college so I had to get a full time job at my moms insistence, and I happily did. I was successful at my jobs. I ended up moving two states away for my work. My brother and sister live much closer.
I got married young and my marriage was abusive. Emotionally and psychologically. Everybody could see it but me. My parents rarely came to visit me and never once talked to me about how I was treated or any offers to help. I had no access to money and I had no way out of my marriage other than to go to a shelter. I have a son and could never take him to a place like that. I finally after years of saving got out. I'm back in school and graduating college in May!! I'm so excited. I've even met the man of my dreams. He treats me and my son incredibly well.
My parents consigned $250k in loans for my sister, paid for my brothers college degrees. They both got nice cars at 16. I paid for my own. Neither of them had jobs. And I have never said a word about it. I just have always wanted their love and approval.
I had a miscarriage in October. My mom was not even happy for me when I told her I was pregnant. I'm financially stable. I have no debt. My car and house are paid for. One day I was just really upset about my body acting weird after the miscarriage. I called my mom to calm me down and for support. Instead she told me to pull myself together and that I had anger issues and I needed counseling. It's been downhill ever since. They cancelled their trip here for Thanksgiving and I get mean horrible texts from her about what an awful person I am. I am heartbroken.
This is not the first incident in my life with her. There's so much more to the story but I think I could write a book. I finally told her after a random mean text to stop and I would not engage with her anymore. I feel awful for my son who loves his grandparents, but the hurt I have endured from her my entire life has to stop at some point. I told her I just wanted to get last things and she said we can't get past things until she gets to the bottom of this. What bottom? I called for support, you told me I had issues. Do I just cut her out forever?