my MIL is very sweet. She has good intentions. She's just a lot for me to handle during this pregnancy. When it's just us two, she goes in tangents about what her 3 ex husbands did to her, how her latest boyfriend OD and she had no idea, and all this pity stuff. I feel for her, I do. And I probably sound like an awful person for complaining about this- but DH says she exaggerates it all. And it gets monotonous hearing about how awful DH's dad is for hours on end- I'm not close with FIL but I like the guy. For example, she think BIL was a crack baby because FIL did cocaine around the time she conceived him. Smh.
Anyways. Since the baby thing, she's been itching to see us more. Which I understand, this is her first blood grand baby to be born. I invited her down to my parents Christmas party later this month, and she invited herself to stay at our place for 5 days. It's a 3 hour drive from where she lives. I wasn't too thrilled- seeing how DH works from 2pm-4am, we have weird schedules. We wake up at 12-1pm and don't go to bed til 5-6am. MIL is used to waking up at 5am and going to bed at 9pm. DH is also working everyday but Sunday's, and so I'm stuck alone with her- which gets her talking about her woes.
All of this has been a rant mostly. My main concern is that she just told me in an email she already notified the mother of the girl she babysits that she will be gone for a week when I go into labor. Implying she'll be here for a week after our baby is here. I really don't want that. I just want it to be DH and I enjoying his fmla with our newborn and no distractions. I'm okay with family visiting for short periods. But I just want to lay in bed for like two weeks with DH and be in awe of our little guy. And I'm not sure how to tell MIL this. She gets offended VERY easily and always plays the guilt trip when something doesn't go according to plan. You should've seen her when DH and I went to his dad's side of the family (whom I've never met- even after being together all this time) for thanksgiving instead of to her parents.
Just. Advice? I'm sorry it's so long.
Anyways. Since the baby thing, she's been itching to see us more. Which I understand, this is her first blood grand baby to be born. I invited her down to my parents Christmas party later this month, and she invited herself to stay at our place for 5 days. It's a 3 hour drive from where she lives. I wasn't too thrilled- seeing how DH works from 2pm-4am, we have weird schedules. We wake up at 12-1pm and don't go to bed til 5-6am. MIL is used to waking up at 5am and going to bed at 9pm. DH is also working everyday but Sunday's, and so I'm stuck alone with her- which gets her talking about her woes.
All of this has been a rant mostly. My main concern is that she just told me in an email she already notified the mother of the girl she babysits that she will be gone for a week when I go into labor. Implying she'll be here for a week after our baby is here. I really don't want that. I just want it to be DH and I enjoying his fmla with our newborn and no distractions. I'm okay with family visiting for short periods. But I just want to lay in bed for like two weeks with DH and be in awe of our little guy. And I'm not sure how to tell MIL this. She gets offended VERY easily and always plays the guilt trip when something doesn't go according to plan. You should've seen her when DH and I went to his dad's side of the family (whom I've never met- even after being together all this time) for thanksgiving instead of to her parents.
Just. Advice? I'm sorry it's so long.