So, my ILs aren't pleasant people to be around. I've posted before about how everything changed 3 yrs ago when I had DD and MIL began treating me like I was less than. Only DD and DH mattered to her and would say things that were mean and hurtful but always just shy of being heard by everyone, like..."it doesn't matter that you don't have our last name as long as DD does..." Or "yeah, my son already explained how he wants me to handle this situation [with DD]" and "DD is so busy playing with us she doesn't even remember you" and on and on...
Well we tried taking to her about her attitude towards me but it went in one ear and out the other... So we took time off from seeing them (going on 8 glorious months!) but the serenity spell will be broken tomorrow since they are coming over for 2-3 hrs! Arrrggg... I have gone over all my previous posts about them and will apply the responses and techniques some of you have suggested. I tremble at the thought of confrontation and have a really hard time calling people on their BS.
By nature I like to please and make others feel comfortable and I have to fight those urges around these nasty blood sucking relatives. I won't be leaning over for hugs or smiling politely, which I imagine leaves me looking pretty serious and cold. So be it... Would anyone have any other suggestions for what I should do with myself (assume I won't be leaving DD alone in a room with them though they wish I'd literally disappear). Told DD that I expect him to back me up even if he doesn't agree with me in the moment and he said he would... But ultimately I have me, myself, and I to look after around them bc DH can at times be oblivious to MIL's cunning ways.
Well we tried taking to her about her attitude towards me but it went in one ear and out the other... So we took time off from seeing them (going on 8 glorious months!) but the serenity spell will be broken tomorrow since they are coming over for 2-3 hrs! Arrrggg... I have gone over all my previous posts about them and will apply the responses and techniques some of you have suggested. I tremble at the thought of confrontation and have a really hard time calling people on their BS.
By nature I like to please and make others feel comfortable and I have to fight those urges around these nasty blood sucking relatives. I won't be leaning over for hugs or smiling politely, which I imagine leaves me looking pretty serious and cold. So be it... Would anyone have any other suggestions for what I should do with myself (assume I won't be leaving DD alone in a room with them though they wish I'd literally disappear). Told DD that I expect him to back me up even if he doesn't agree with me in the moment and he said he would... But ultimately I have me, myself, and I to look after around them bc DH can at times be oblivious to MIL's cunning ways.