My MIL has lost damn mind! I'll try to make this s short as I can.
She lives about an hour (in good traffic) away from us. We don't see her very often. She doesn't work and has a mortgage on the house she lives in. She has other people (bf, dad, chruch, etc) paying her bills. My DH has sent her a few dollars here and there. It comes out of his personal pocket money so doesn't affect our money. Not my cirus, but, this is relevant background.
Recently, her long time boyfriend passed away. He paid majority of her bills. She had gotten a job and then quit a week later.
We have a 6 year old (ds) and a now 5 month old(dd). At the funeral she mentioned to my DH ( I wasn't there) that she would be willing to watch our dd while we worked. DH brought this shit up to me and I shut it down. I don't like the idea of depending on family members to watch my kids. I prefer to not have awkward family dinners because I fired grandma. This was two months ago.
Four days ago MIL debil messaged me about watching dd. Which tells me DUH never told her no. So I told him to handle the situation. Well he did. That conversation ended with her crying and hanging up on him. I felt a little bad, because he let this drag on for the sake of avoiding conflict. Keep in mind, I've never had a problem with her, we don't see her on any consistent basis.
So Wednesday night I asked DH if MIL was coming for tg dinner. He said she hasn't talked to him since that conversation.
I got in my head that something wasn't right with the situation. So I snoped through my DH's phone while he was sleeping. She texted my DH after she hung up on him. Basically, saying we were being mean to her (Not but okay), my DH makes a lot of money and she feels like he should take care of her, she quit her job because her coworkers were being mean to her, and that we need to move because... "Our neighborhood is bad and a skinny white guy and his overweight babymomma can't defend ourselves" to which he replies "We are looking to move"
I am livid. She called me fat. Because, I won't let her watch my lo. BTW she was going to charge us the same rate the daycare charges. But my DUH didn't defend me against that. I have been extremely self conscious about my weight. I have gained a ton of weight with this pregnancy. And it's still there. But the thing is I would not have known this if I didn't snoop.
Should I confront my DUH about this? Or just put MIL on a T.O. she really isn't into us anyway. Doesn't ask to see the kids. What should I do?
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Overweight Baby Momma; BG PG 6, Confrontation, CPS & A Car Accident (Triggers) PG 11
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