Hello, friends. I'm looking for some advice on what to do regarding my relationship with my little brother.
Six weeks ago I CO my MOO and FOO. They had been physically and emotionally abusive to me as a child, and my mother continued to be emotionally abusive to me as an adult. She got CO after a physical assault six weeks ago. And yes, I should have been done years ago. I'll never forgive myself for exposing my children to those people.
My older brother CO them as well, but my little brother is defending them. He's not ready to face the truth of our childhood yet, and they have him under their thumb. He talks to my older brother behind my back (my older brother defends me and shuts him down or just won't talk to him) about how this CO is ridiculous and I'm "killing them inside" and "destroying the family." Meanwhile, he sends me funny memes and links on FB. We haven't discussed the CO at all except when I told him the story of what happened and he said that my MOO had already told him the story and that he wasn't going to get in the middle. He obviously believes her lies.
I've restricted his access to my photos and FB page because I could see him passing info and photos on to my parents. I don't want to unfriend him altogether or CO because I'm hoping that someday soon he'll realize how terrible they are, and at that point I'd like for us kids to be able to support each other. I'd like to discuss the situation with him in order to gauge whether I should continue to keep the door open to him, but I don't even know where to start. I want to be there for him when he's ready to accept that our parents are abusive, but I also don't know if my heart can handle having him go off on me.
Any thoughts on how I can address the situation? Or should I leave it alone?
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Brainwashed Little Brother
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