BG on here. I am unable to post, but it mostly concerns only the most recent event. ILs are on LC from me and LO. Last time we visited with them was in October. There have been some P/A comments from MIL about my DH needing to be her and FILs advocate when it comes to visiting LO because they feel they aren't involved enough and think I'm controlling DH with my magic vagina. Anyway, ffw to last week. ILs wanted to send out a holiday news letter and asked DH if they could include a photo of him and LO in the pool. He said no. They reluctantly respected our wishes, but both DH and I were not happy that the photo they wanted to include was not of our entire family. DH confronted FIL on this and they made excuses but would not apologize for leaving me out. No surprise. We decided that because they wanted to leave me out of the photo, they could leave me and LO out of the letter completely so DH asked them to remove any mention of LO and myself. FIL was shocked but agreed to do so (only after again trying to say they did nothing wrong blah blah blah).
So my current issue: we obviously made plans concerning the holidays a while ago. ILs are supposed to come here for brunch on the 26th. MIL asked for a list of items we were wanting (again a while ago). I don't really like receiving gifts so the list I gave her was one thing for me specifically, a few things for our home and things for LO. While I don't feel the most recent events deserve a TO, the 26th will be the first time I have seen them or spoken to them since October. I am really uncomfortable accepting gifts from people who clearly don't like me and would rather I not be around. So, wise DWILers, how do I handle this visit? I don't want to create drama because I'm never going to get an apology anyway. I think a TO is over dramatic and if I don't see them at Christmas the next occasion is my LOs first birthday which I dont want to be ruined by awkwardness. Would hosting them and accepting gifts be rug sweeping or hypocritical? Help!
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So my current issue: we obviously made plans concerning the holidays a while ago. ILs are supposed to come here for brunch on the 26th. MIL asked for a list of items we were wanting (again a while ago). I don't really like receiving gifts so the list I gave her was one thing for me specifically, a few things for our home and things for LO. While I don't feel the most recent events deserve a TO, the 26th will be the first time I have seen them or spoken to them since October. I am really uncomfortable accepting gifts from people who clearly don't like me and would rather I not be around. So, wise DWILers, how do I handle this visit? I don't want to create drama because I'm never going to get an apology anyway. I think a TO is over dramatic and if I don't see them at Christmas the next occasion is my LOs first birthday which I dont want to be ruined by awkwardness. Would hosting them and accepting gifts be rug sweeping or hypocritical? Help!
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