DH and I have our own kids. He was married before, and from that marriage had kids who he has custody of. Our marriage is young, and so are our kids. His kids from his first marriage are teenagers. We met online, and after years of communication, traveling back and forth to see each other, meeting each other's kids, and family, we decided to close the distance to be together. He decided to move to me because he was tired of the state he lived in for years. He wanted new beginnings. So he moved there, we got married, and got our own house. A year and a half later, after two visits from his parents, they decided to move to our state. They claimed it was beautiful, lots to do, and friendly. We didn't mind their move then. Years passed, and through a job relocation with his job, we moved across the country. He told his parents in the early about the relocation, and how it'll be beneficial for us as a family because it was more money, and a higher position. They congratulated him, wished us good luck, and showed no signs of butt hurt,
We've been here for near a year now. Labor Day weekend they visited us as it was their anniversary also. Once again, they swooned over our new life, the city, beaches, attractions, and way of life for people here. Never did we think they'll have been interested to move here. Thanksgiving came, and both our family visited us here. On Thanksgiving, FIL told DH and I how he was in love with where we live, and he and MIL were looking at moving out here because the cost of living is cheaper for them, and they felt it'll be a good life to enjoy retirement. DH told them they were wasting money, not thinking right, and felt they were only doing it to be closer to him. FIL said no, and that although it was to be closer to us and the kids, they looked at the senior communities here, and they are better than where they live. He told us they are moving here before the year is out. To make things clearer for them, he told them they need to have their own life when they get here because we don't be home during the week, and on weekends we are out with the kids. MIL knows weekends is swimming and gymnastics for the kids. She said it'll be no deal as we could tell them where both are, and they'll go watch the kids do their activities. DH scoffed. I was pissed. He told them do whatever they want as its their money, but to,d them he knew they moved to be near us, and explained that his job may move him in the future. He told them he doesn't know when, but when he does, they better not talk about moving or he's done with them.
They've began sending stuff here, and would be settled soon.
Based on my OP, there are things worth noting. They have fixation on my older kids, and when they visit, they always ask for alone time with them, and the younger ones. One of the oldest ones is going off to College next year. They've been telling him to do local College instead of out of state, so they could visit him. MIL has even told the kids they'll all have great moments with her as they'll get to go to beach, attractions, and shop with her when she gets to.
any advice?
We've been here for near a year now. Labor Day weekend they visited us as it was their anniversary also. Once again, they swooned over our new life, the city, beaches, attractions, and way of life for people here. Never did we think they'll have been interested to move here. Thanksgiving came, and both our family visited us here. On Thanksgiving, FIL told DH and I how he was in love with where we live, and he and MIL were looking at moving out here because the cost of living is cheaper for them, and they felt it'll be a good life to enjoy retirement. DH told them they were wasting money, not thinking right, and felt they were only doing it to be closer to him. FIL said no, and that although it was to be closer to us and the kids, they looked at the senior communities here, and they are better than where they live. He told us they are moving here before the year is out. To make things clearer for them, he told them they need to have their own life when they get here because we don't be home during the week, and on weekends we are out with the kids. MIL knows weekends is swimming and gymnastics for the kids. She said it'll be no deal as we could tell them where both are, and they'll go watch the kids do their activities. DH scoffed. I was pissed. He told them do whatever they want as its their money, but to,d them he knew they moved to be near us, and explained that his job may move him in the future. He told them he doesn't know when, but when he does, they better not talk about moving or he's done with them.
They've began sending stuff here, and would be settled soon.
Based on my OP, there are things worth noting. They have fixation on my older kids, and when they visit, they always ask for alone time with them, and the younger ones. One of the oldest ones is going off to College next year. They've been telling him to do local College instead of out of state, so they could visit him. MIL has even told the kids they'll all have great moments with her as they'll get to go to beach, attractions, and shop with her when she gets to.
any advice?