I know this board is for family issues but you guys always give good advice and I couldnt think of anyplace better to ask for help.
BG. My friend and I have been friends since we were in second grade and are now in our mid twenties. She has two bys ages 7 and 4 with no help from their dad as he is in prison. She moved away to the town where her Dad lived when we were in 11th grade had her 2 boys and then moved back to her Moms about three years ago.
After she moved back her mom helped her get a loan and a downpayment on a house. It is a small home with a very low monthly payment. In April of 2014 my DH (fiance at the time) myself and my daughter moved into her house and we live in the basement. All housing expences are split 50/50 so we pay half the mortgage and utilities. We pay our share to her and she is responcible to get the money where it needs to go.
My friend used to be a very hard worker in high school and up untill she got her own home. She now works very minimal hours at her on call job, in fact she has not been to work in almost 3 months. Her mom helps her out by depositing aroung $600 into her account every month. Her mom does not know that she has not been working. With only $600 a month she can not afford to pay her share of the bills, take care of her kids, and all the other leisurly things she does. Because of this she has not been paying the bills. the house payment is the only thing getting paid because it comes right out of her account and she knows that if she doesnt pay it her Mom would find out. The utilitie bills are so high it is rediculus and the gas has been shut off for about 4 weeks now.
I really just dont know what to do anymore I miss my hard working, independant friend and I want her to stive to do better and take care of everything. I am almost to the point where I want to tell her Mom everything that is going on so maybe she will give her a kick in the ass to get it together but I know my friend would never forgive me. WWYD?