Husband and I are originally from Puerto Rico and after living for 8 years in NYC we decided to move back to PR last November because my MIL was having issues with her business (their family is very dysfunctional) and FIL had died about 2 years ago (leaving a mess with the inheritance and the family business).
So, what ended up happening was that we're now living next door to MIL (who's a MIL from hell) in a house that she owns and we're not paying rent but my husband has given her thousands of dollars for her legal fees.... We're using my mom's car to get around.
So anyways, things are not going well in PR for me. For example, I'm an attorney and tried to pass the PR Bar exam but failed and although I'm licensed in NY and NJ, PR does not honor my licenses. So I can't work. My husband is an attorney too, he opened his own law office and has 1 client but makes enough money to pay the bills.
Husband had told me if we got pregnant that we would move back to NYC since we own a house there and could be more comfortable. Well guess what - I got pregnant and now he says he never meant that. He says taxes are lower for us in PR and for his business and that he doesn't want to go back to having a regular job, wants to keep working for himself and he couldn't afford it with the NYC taxes. He also wants to be close to his mom.
I'm sad because I don't know if I'll ever be able to work again because I don't have the licenses, I don't want to work for my husband, and yes, I really don't like having my MIL next door. For example, a few days after I found out I was pregnant Husband and I were kind of arguing in front of her about where to live -- what she told me made me really upset - basically that Virgin Mary had Jesus in a manger and therefore I could have my baby anywhere; if I keep arguing I will lose my baby and that I will make my husband tired and he will leave.
My husband sees nothing wrong with any of the things she said. This is a woman who in the past had even suggested to my husband that he cheat on me. Now I'm living next door to her.
But really, the reason I want to leave is NOT my MIL (my mother lives in PR too and that's the good part) - but the fact that I want to go back to having somewhat of a career/make my own money and be more comfortable in my own house instead of this much smaller (deteriorated) house we live right now. Also, even if I pass the PR Bar, PR has one of the highest unemployment rates right now and is going through a drought (so I only have water once every 3 days).
Thoughts?