So I moved with my husband over a year ago to stay with his dad, because he needed us. WELL, this year has been quite the trick, for lack of a better term. My husband and I told him the beginning of this year that we would be finding our own place, it was time for him to stand on his own 2 feet (I mean your 55), that we had been living with him for a year and needed our own space to grow as a couple and start our own family. (My husband has a son, but his ex wife...another story for a rainy day). Well he throws a temper tantrum and starts giving us the cold shoulder. Childish behavior.
February, my husband and I were injured in a serious car accident. Both of us had to stay in the hospital for a few days. My boss was far from understanding and fired me, while I'm still in the hospital. His job was secured for the time being. So after our release I stayed home and took care of my husband.
My dog ended up having 4 puppies 3 days after our release, 1 sadly was born with leg deformities, and I tried everything to keep him alive. Unfortunately through all the efforts he didn't make it and passed 2 weeks after birth. Very traumatic for me, I'm an absolute dog lover and have birthed hundreds of puppies, never had had that experience before.
My husband returned to work 2 weeks later, and after receiving his first paycheck, and our insurance check, we rented a townhouse and bought a New ride. Everything was looking up for US, we moved into our new place mid April. This WAS the FIRST time that my husband and I have lived ALONE our entire relationship, no roommates, parents, b.s., drama, or friends. Just me and him. A week later we found out that I'm pregnant and we could not have been more excited! We waited 2 years for this! We were going to finally be Me and Him for a little while before our baby steps in.
UNTIL.....not 2 days, yes I said DAYS later, father in law calls....he lost his job and the house he was staying in!! So, we have stayed with him to help him for a YEAR thought everything was going good moved out for less than 10 days and now he lost his job, house, and car! Ughh so of course, he comes to live with us in our 2 bd, 1 ba townhouse. The deal was he stayed until his birthday then he's out. That gave him enough time to find a job, get his car back, find a place to live and get out. (May 05- his bday July 25). The only thing he has done since may is hold my couch down, and say my unemployment check will be here in 2 weeks. I'm about to lose my shit ladies!!! He has done NOTHING!!! Not laundry, not dishes, not clean his room (the baby room when she gets here), I don't even think he's taken a shower and he's sleeping on my spare bed on my very nice sheets! Well so much for those, they have blood stains all over them now. He's went out a handful of times and put in maybe a handful of applications. I've tried to talk to my husband but he keeps defending him. But we are really fixing to lose everything bc of his dad! He was supposed to pay a third of the bills (rent, cable, electric) and be able to support himself (beer, cigs, food, etc) but we have been having to do it ALL...I've gone as far as giving my husband an ultimatum either me and OUR baby, or your dad, but all he does is get defensive and tell me that I'm being irrational, that it's his dad and he will handle it. But he hasn't. Its been 3 months and he's still sitting on the couch eating my food and wasting space!
February, my husband and I were injured in a serious car accident. Both of us had to stay in the hospital for a few days. My boss was far from understanding and fired me, while I'm still in the hospital. His job was secured for the time being. So after our release I stayed home and took care of my husband.
My dog ended up having 4 puppies 3 days after our release, 1 sadly was born with leg deformities, and I tried everything to keep him alive. Unfortunately through all the efforts he didn't make it and passed 2 weeks after birth. Very traumatic for me, I'm an absolute dog lover and have birthed hundreds of puppies, never had had that experience before.
My husband returned to work 2 weeks later, and after receiving his first paycheck, and our insurance check, we rented a townhouse and bought a New ride. Everything was looking up for US, we moved into our new place mid April. This WAS the FIRST time that my husband and I have lived ALONE our entire relationship, no roommates, parents, b.s., drama, or friends. Just me and him. A week later we found out that I'm pregnant and we could not have been more excited! We waited 2 years for this! We were going to finally be Me and Him for a little while before our baby steps in.
UNTIL.....not 2 days, yes I said DAYS later, father in law calls....he lost his job and the house he was staying in!! So, we have stayed with him to help him for a YEAR thought everything was going good moved out for less than 10 days and now he lost his job, house, and car! Ughh so of course, he comes to live with us in our 2 bd, 1 ba townhouse. The deal was he stayed until his birthday then he's out. That gave him enough time to find a job, get his car back, find a place to live and get out. (May 05- his bday July 25). The only thing he has done since may is hold my couch down, and say my unemployment check will be here in 2 weeks. I'm about to lose my shit ladies!!! He has done NOTHING!!! Not laundry, not dishes, not clean his room (the baby room when she gets here), I don't even think he's taken a shower and he's sleeping on my spare bed on my very nice sheets! Well so much for those, they have blood stains all over them now. He's went out a handful of times and put in maybe a handful of applications. I've tried to talk to my husband but he keeps defending him. But we are really fixing to lose everything bc of his dad! He was supposed to pay a third of the bills (rent, cable, electric) and be able to support himself (beer, cigs, food, etc) but we have been having to do it ALL...I've gone as far as giving my husband an ultimatum either me and OUR baby, or your dad, but all he does is get defensive and tell me that I'm being irrational, that it's his dad and he will handle it. But he hasn't. Its been 3 months and he's still sitting on the couch eating my food and wasting space!