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Bg: dh and I married 5 years. Everything was great until we got pregnant. Mil bought furniture for nursery and gave us a bed for a guest room. I thought she was being nice. We live in ga and they in michigan so they like to visit, not a big deal now my family can stay with us too yay! Husband is deployed for the birth of ds, and I was scared so I wanted help, but I didn't want a house full of people. I tell mil the dates my mom will be staying at my house and she can't come down during the week she's here. Mil agrees. Mil comes down a week before my due date, informs me she is staying for a month, and that fil, and gmil will be here the following week which is when my mom would be here. I say they have to stay in a hotel. Huge drama. Mil cries to dh. He takes her side. Holds the furniture over my head so I tell her she's not allowed to buy us stuff anymore. She also took my son after he was born, walked across my room and turned her back to me. I had to ask to hold my own baby, and if I wasn't nursing him and holding I was called a baby hog. She was kicked out of my house.
She coddles ds so much that she has actually hurt him. I'm not a helicopter parent and I let him explore. She has literally gotten in his way and knocked him down while he was learning how to walk, and he cracked his head on the corner of the entertainment center. He fell into her pool while she wasn't paying attention. She knocked him off of a slide while he was going down it because she was afraid he would fall. She's not allowed alone with ds anymore. She makes my bed, she folds my laundry including my underwear. When she is around I become invisible. I'm sick of it.
Dh deployed again and they came to say farewell to him. Not a big deal. The day he left mil started immediatly arguing with me about what was a healthy amount of time for ds to spend on a tablet. I say none. I don't want him using a damn tablet yet, he's 2. It's my decision. She continued to push it until I had to pick ds up and remove him from her.
My aunt got sick and passed barely a month after dh left so I went to michigan to say goodbye and be with my family. She manipulated duh into accusing me of keeping ds from her, even though we had stayed for 10 days in michigan at her house a month before this and she stayed with us for 10 days 2 weeks before I went home to say goodbye. She kept pushing to baby sit but I refused. I wanted my son with me during this time, plus I don't trust her alone with him. I told duh it was either me or her, he always choose her side. He needed to get therapy and figure out where his priorites lie. Plus, we found out I was pregnant a few weeks before he deployed and this extra stress from her is causing contractions. I've also started therapy and my therapist say I lay down clear boundaries with her before her upcoming visit. (IL coming 2 days after xmas) this is the last chance I give her before I cut her out from me completely. So I sent her a Facebook message stating my feelings and boundaries. I'll include screen shots. If you need more bg please let me know. That is just the tip of the iceburg.
Bg: dh and I married 5 years. Everything was great until we got pregnant. Mil bought furniture for nursery and gave us a bed for a guest room. I thought she was being nice. We live in ga and they in michigan so they like to visit, not a big deal now my family can stay with us too yay! Husband is deployed for the birth of ds, and I was scared so I wanted help, but I didn't want a house full of people. I tell mil the dates my mom will be staying at my house and she can't come down during the week she's here. Mil agrees. Mil comes down a week before my due date, informs me she is staying for a month, and that fil, and gmil will be here the following week which is when my mom would be here. I say they have to stay in a hotel. Huge drama. Mil cries to dh. He takes her side. Holds the furniture over my head so I tell her she's not allowed to buy us stuff anymore. She also took my son after he was born, walked across my room and turned her back to me. I had to ask to hold my own baby, and if I wasn't nursing him and holding I was called a baby hog. She was kicked out of my house.
She coddles ds so much that she has actually hurt him. I'm not a helicopter parent and I let him explore. She has literally gotten in his way and knocked him down while he was learning how to walk, and he cracked his head on the corner of the entertainment center. He fell into her pool while she wasn't paying attention. She knocked him off of a slide while he was going down it because she was afraid he would fall. She's not allowed alone with ds anymore. She makes my bed, she folds my laundry including my underwear. When she is around I become invisible. I'm sick of it.
Dh deployed again and they came to say farewell to him. Not a big deal. The day he left mil started immediatly arguing with me about what was a healthy amount of time for ds to spend on a tablet. I say none. I don't want him using a damn tablet yet, he's 2. It's my decision. She continued to push it until I had to pick ds up and remove him from her.
My aunt got sick and passed barely a month after dh left so I went to michigan to say goodbye and be with my family. She manipulated duh into accusing me of keeping ds from her, even though we had stayed for 10 days in michigan at her house a month before this and she stayed with us for 10 days 2 weeks before I went home to say goodbye. She kept pushing to baby sit but I refused. I wanted my son with me during this time, plus I don't trust her alone with him. I told duh it was either me or her, he always choose her side. He needed to get therapy and figure out where his priorites lie. Plus, we found out I was pregnant a few weeks before he deployed and this extra stress from her is causing contractions. I've also started therapy and my therapist say I lay down clear boundaries with her before her upcoming visit. (IL coming 2 days after xmas) this is the last chance I give her before I cut her out from me completely. So I sent her a Facebook message stating my feelings and boundaries. I'll include screen shots. If you need more bg please let me know. That is just the tip of the iceburg.