So my father in law passed away 2 weeks ago. It was heartbreaking, he was a good man.
My biggest regret right now, is that he died without knowing his granddaughter. The reason being is that I held on to the anger I had towards Mil, Sil, and Ail.
MIL had completely turned the time of joy into a time of stress when my daughter was born. I have never been able to let that go although she broke down crying, apologizing for everything she did wrong. A genuine apology.
SIL and I just haven't got along and I haven't spoke to AIL since my daughter was born.
However, when FIL passed away, it was like none of that even mattered. We were all there for eachother. We all hugged, spoke to eachother, it wasn't the same as it was before the fights began, but it was something.
I have so much guilt because FIL WANTED to know his granddaughter, it was one of the last things he said to DH, but I refused! I refused because I didn't want to be around MILs family. I never even got to spend any time with him before he died because of the anger I have held on to. None of my issues were EVER with FIL, ever!
Now with the new year, I just want to let everything go and start over. MIL has already apologized, but she was still my BEC. SIL has not, nor has AIL, but the problems happened so long ago and I just want to let go and try again.
I honestly feel like we can start over, but I don't know if it's the right thing to do. I already kept LO away from FIL, and now he's gone. Part of me thinks "whats the point?" But another part of me just wants to let go and try. What do you all think I should do?
My biggest regret right now, is that he died without knowing his granddaughter. The reason being is that I held on to the anger I had towards Mil, Sil, and Ail.
MIL had completely turned the time of joy into a time of stress when my daughter was born. I have never been able to let that go although she broke down crying, apologizing for everything she did wrong. A genuine apology.
SIL and I just haven't got along and I haven't spoke to AIL since my daughter was born.
However, when FIL passed away, it was like none of that even mattered. We were all there for eachother. We all hugged, spoke to eachother, it wasn't the same as it was before the fights began, but it was something.
I have so much guilt because FIL WANTED to know his granddaughter, it was one of the last things he said to DH, but I refused! I refused because I didn't want to be around MILs family. I never even got to spend any time with him before he died because of the anger I have held on to. None of my issues were EVER with FIL, ever!
Now with the new year, I just want to let everything go and start over. MIL has already apologized, but she was still my BEC. SIL has not, nor has AIL, but the problems happened so long ago and I just want to let go and try again.
I honestly feel like we can start over, but I don't know if it's the right thing to do. I already kept LO away from FIL, and now he's gone. Part of me thinks "whats the point?" But another part of me just wants to let go and try. What do you all think I should do?