Happy New Year all!
Regular lurker under new screen name. My original screen name has my first name, so I don't want my boyfriends sister to know I'm on this group.
I've been dating him for one year. He and his family travel every year, and to many places. He made it known to me when we began dating that he travels many times a year, and it's either solo or with his family. Mostly, he goes with his parents. I had no problem and started traveling with him and his parents. In 2015 we all traveled lots. On each trip his mom and I had arguments. She'd make comments that were dating and he shouldn't be paying my airfare. I don't ask him to do it, he wants to do it. She'd say that if we married, I'll want him to continue paying my airfare. She's gone further to tell me I have no respect for him based on how I dress. Each time she said those things to me, he'd tell her that how te treats his girlfriend is not her concern, and to stop the comments while respecting me for who I am.
Being that they are a close family who do things together, we have dinner at his parents during the week. Just one day a week. Random days his parents like to choose one of us individually and take us out to lunch to talk. So many times I've been on individual lunch dates with either his mom or dad. There are times when with his dad it's tensed and brutal. His dad calls our lunch dates his investigation of me so to learn about me more. His dad is a blunt guy and he's attacked me for many things. One being my job issues of always being in different jobs, not wanting to completely move in with his son yet, and thinks I'm using him as a free ride.
This got heated when I got pregnant earlier this year. When we told them I was pregnant his mom felt I needed to move in completely because we needed to act as a couple with stability in preparation for a baby. I miscarried and when it happened, we were living apart. Seeing I was pregnant then, his dad said to me that the miscarriage was heartbreaking as he wanted to be a granddad, but for him, he told ne that since his son and me are sexually active, we should move in asap because if I get pregnant again, it should be while living together. He told me that if we got pregnant new again while living apart, he's not sure he'll accept me as a daughter. He may ask if so, that we move in and do it, but by having sex with his son, taking travels with them, and being at family events meant I was serious about his son.
Lately things got bad. Christmas Eve they expected us at church together. He went alone, I did not go. His mom told me on Christmas Day she was disappointed in me and how it's not fair that her son does things important to them, by himself. She meant church. Yesterday, he went to mass, I went with him. What I wore was the target of his mom against me. She told me I needed to respect church and dress appropriately. I wore a dress with straps, and a camisole. It was a flower dress. She told me I needed to wear church clothings and not be looking don't carish next to her son. On the drive home from church I told him his mom and his dad didn't like me, and he needed to talk to them about their thoughts of me. We woke up this morning to a voicemail from his grandmother commenting about how I was dressed, and if we go to church on Sunday, she expects to see me dress civil.
I love him so much, but can't stand his parents.
Help me with advice please.
Regular lurker under new screen name. My original screen name has my first name, so I don't want my boyfriends sister to know I'm on this group.
I've been dating him for one year. He and his family travel every year, and to many places. He made it known to me when we began dating that he travels many times a year, and it's either solo or with his family. Mostly, he goes with his parents. I had no problem and started traveling with him and his parents. In 2015 we all traveled lots. On each trip his mom and I had arguments. She'd make comments that were dating and he shouldn't be paying my airfare. I don't ask him to do it, he wants to do it. She'd say that if we married, I'll want him to continue paying my airfare. She's gone further to tell me I have no respect for him based on how I dress. Each time she said those things to me, he'd tell her that how te treats his girlfriend is not her concern, and to stop the comments while respecting me for who I am.
Being that they are a close family who do things together, we have dinner at his parents during the week. Just one day a week. Random days his parents like to choose one of us individually and take us out to lunch to talk. So many times I've been on individual lunch dates with either his mom or dad. There are times when with his dad it's tensed and brutal. His dad calls our lunch dates his investigation of me so to learn about me more. His dad is a blunt guy and he's attacked me for many things. One being my job issues of always being in different jobs, not wanting to completely move in with his son yet, and thinks I'm using him as a free ride.
This got heated when I got pregnant earlier this year. When we told them I was pregnant his mom felt I needed to move in completely because we needed to act as a couple with stability in preparation for a baby. I miscarried and when it happened, we were living apart. Seeing I was pregnant then, his dad said to me that the miscarriage was heartbreaking as he wanted to be a granddad, but for him, he told ne that since his son and me are sexually active, we should move in asap because if I get pregnant again, it should be while living together. He told me that if we got pregnant new again while living apart, he's not sure he'll accept me as a daughter. He may ask if so, that we move in and do it, but by having sex with his son, taking travels with them, and being at family events meant I was serious about his son.
Lately things got bad. Christmas Eve they expected us at church together. He went alone, I did not go. His mom told me on Christmas Day she was disappointed in me and how it's not fair that her son does things important to them, by himself. She meant church. Yesterday, he went to mass, I went with him. What I wore was the target of his mom against me. She told me I needed to respect church and dress appropriately. I wore a dress with straps, and a camisole. It was a flower dress. She told me I needed to wear church clothings and not be looking don't carish next to her son. On the drive home from church I told him his mom and his dad didn't like me, and he needed to talk to them about their thoughts of me. We woke up this morning to a voicemail from his grandmother commenting about how I was dressed, and if we go to church on Sunday, she expects to see me dress civil.
I love him so much, but can't stand his parents.
Help me with advice please.