Hi, I'm a longtime lurker, I made this account because my other is too identifiable. I had another anon account that I posted on but I don't remember the details to get into it. Sorry if this gets long.
BG on why MIL is blocked on the debil:
She is the typical GMOTY, she likes/posts on anything having to do with "her grandson." It's annoying, attention-seeking, possessive things like saying how her grandson is so cute and she loves him so much and blah blah blah. She's my BEC but has had her fair share of BSC in the past.
The final straw was when she was going through some of her BSC and she spouted off how she was going to seek GPR. I blocked her but I still kept up with her crazy at first through my DH's account (yes, I know this was bad, you don't need to tell me). She proceeded to post about me calling me little girl and how I blocked her, but she deleted it later (not sure why). I CO her from me a LO and DH agreed. I told him he could have a relationship with her but the only way I would consider a relationship with her is if he and she worked on their relationship first.
FF two months, my then DuH guilts/bullies (let's call it what it was) into seeing her. It was a very low point in our marriage and I two carded him and told him I was ready to be done. He "apologized" (he's since recognized what he did and has sincerely apologized but at the time it was not sincere), but still guilted me into seeing her with LO. I hate myself for giving in so easily and I'm not really sure why I did.
Surprisingly, the visit went okay besides her needing a picture of LO, her showering LO with gifts, and her not apologizing to me. Pretty much all visits have gone okay since then except one where she acted mad because I said she couldn't hold LO yet because he wasn't done eating, but she could when he was done. He fell asleep and I covered him up (we were outside in the sun) so I think she thought I was lying that he fell asleep and so she was mad about that too. Whatever. She also almost refused to give LO to DH later on and then asked to give him ice cream and pushed the issue when DH said no, which he shut down. Our spines are growing but VERY slowly.
Thank you if you're still with me! So to make this long story shorter, we recently saw her and when we went to go, she gave me a hug, a kiss on the cheek, and said love you like she always does (I hate it so much but it's almost like I'm forced into it). Well this time, when I went to pull away she got in my face a little and said "can you unblock me from Facebook please?" I may be exaggerating on the please, I don't really remember if she said please, I was too focused on the fact that my personal space was being violated.
The dumb ass spineless doormat I am said "okay." Guys, I said fucking OKAY. What the hell was I supposed to say with this bitch in my face? That's not a rhetorical question, seriously what could I have said that wouldn't have come across super bitchy? My mind went blank. She literally cornered me.
I haven't unblocked her yet and do not want to. What can I do oh, wise DWIL? I need to grow my spine and stand up for myself but I can't seem to.
Oh and for everyone that will call out DH, he didn't hear what she said but what could he have done to diffuse the situation? I don't really blame him but I'd like to give him an idea of what he could say.
By the way, I told him about DWIL recommending "That's a silly thing to say" and he thought it was brilliant and is hoping to use it sometime. She's the type that that would work on.
Overall I think she might be trainable and I'd like to see before CO but if it were to come to it, I think I'd be strong enough this time to hold to it or divorce.
BG on why MIL is blocked on the debil:
She is the typical GMOTY, she likes/posts on anything having to do with "her grandson." It's annoying, attention-seeking, possessive things like saying how her grandson is so cute and she loves him so much and blah blah blah. She's my BEC but has had her fair share of BSC in the past.
The final straw was when she was going through some of her BSC and she spouted off how she was going to seek GPR. I blocked her but I still kept up with her crazy at first through my DH's account (yes, I know this was bad, you don't need to tell me). She proceeded to post about me calling me little girl and how I blocked her, but she deleted it later (not sure why). I CO her from me a LO and DH agreed. I told him he could have a relationship with her but the only way I would consider a relationship with her is if he and she worked on their relationship first.
FF two months, my then DuH guilts/bullies (let's call it what it was) into seeing her. It was a very low point in our marriage and I two carded him and told him I was ready to be done. He "apologized" (he's since recognized what he did and has sincerely apologized but at the time it was not sincere), but still guilted me into seeing her with LO. I hate myself for giving in so easily and I'm not really sure why I did.
Surprisingly, the visit went okay besides her needing a picture of LO, her showering LO with gifts, and her not apologizing to me. Pretty much all visits have gone okay since then except one where she acted mad because I said she couldn't hold LO yet because he wasn't done eating, but she could when he was done. He fell asleep and I covered him up (we were outside in the sun) so I think she thought I was lying that he fell asleep and so she was mad about that too. Whatever. She also almost refused to give LO to DH later on and then asked to give him ice cream and pushed the issue when DH said no, which he shut down. Our spines are growing but VERY slowly.
Thank you if you're still with me! So to make this long story shorter, we recently saw her and when we went to go, she gave me a hug, a kiss on the cheek, and said love you like she always does (I hate it so much but it's almost like I'm forced into it). Well this time, when I went to pull away she got in my face a little and said "can you unblock me from Facebook please?" I may be exaggerating on the please, I don't really remember if she said please, I was too focused on the fact that my personal space was being violated.
The dumb ass spineless doormat I am said "okay." Guys, I said fucking OKAY. What the hell was I supposed to say with this bitch in my face? That's not a rhetorical question, seriously what could I have said that wouldn't have come across super bitchy? My mind went blank. She literally cornered me.
I haven't unblocked her yet and do not want to. What can I do oh, wise DWIL? I need to grow my spine and stand up for myself but I can't seem to.
Oh and for everyone that will call out DH, he didn't hear what she said but what could he have done to diffuse the situation? I don't really blame him but I'd like to give him an idea of what he could say.
By the way, I told him about DWIL recommending "That's a silly thing to say" and he thought it was brilliant and is hoping to use it sometime. She's the type that that would work on.
Overall I think she might be trainable and I'd like to see before CO but if it were to come to it, I think I'd be strong enough this time to hold to it or divorce.