I have completely had it living with DF family. We only live here because fiance was offered a job back in march 2015 which was 2 hours away from our home in PA. My business started dropping and fiance lost his business thanks to his parents. After working there for awhile our car started breaking down in May. In June on his way home from a long shift, his car completely shut down 3am in the morning. He was stranded miles away from home and miles away from anyone. I had to use location services to track exactly where his car was and tried calling for help. Thank God his car started back up because no one was answering. When I was as 6 months pregnant the car started jolting and almost caused us several car accidents because we lost control sometimes. His mother offered us to live with her because i was pregnant, his job is only 30 minutes away and the car was too dangerous. We agreed and hell started after we completely closed our lease. We told her we would be out by April because fiance hours got cut from Sept. To Dec. And just got his hours picked back up and will be being moved to full time soon. (Thank GOD!!) From the day we moved there its been hell. Me and fiance have out disputes but his mother thinks im not suppose to tell her son what to do. Not even arguments. We would be in our room discussing money and have a debate. Her nosy self was always having her ear to our door. He told her our relationship matters are none of her business. My baby shower 8 months pregnant, was awful. I cleaned the entire backyard while MIL cooked. When fiance and I went to pick up my mother(disabled) we came back and his older brother put the dog in the backyard who shitted everywhere (remind you theres no grass just brick pavement). My fiance told him he knew the baby shower was today. He said to fiance leave her back there. Shes not going to bother anyone. Fiance argued with his mother. The mother took the dog upstairs to the brothers apartment and the brother got mad and left.
Everything I ask for is such an inconvenience to them so they say
We recently had a discussion about the dirty dog coming through the house. The dog looks like she has mange. I left it. But now the dog keeps trying to come in the room. I asked if they could tell me when the dog is passing through so I can close the door to where the baby is. A huge argument started and was told by fiance brother that i can't come in dictating rules and that he can evict me whenever he wants. Fiance and his brother almost got into a fist fight that night. More things were brought up and said because his brother committed fraud in his name and more.
MIL talks about me in Spanish like I dont understand what she is saying (7 years of spanish) and her sister comes and talks about me as well. When approached by me and fiance they claim they didnt say anything. I repeat to them in spanish what theyve said and they said oh they were just playing or tell fiance that I didn't probably properly understand. Yet they still do it when DF is at work.
His mother is always insulting how I care for my baby. She tells me she has 3 children and they grew up fine. (Even though one had a brain infection thanks to her and is now mentally challenges which she thinks my DF never told me) . she thinks my daughter isn't suppose to cry fornmore than 2 minutes. She hounds me and I had to tell her to back off. Babies cry, thats what they do. My daughter who is almost 2 months is now at the stage of fighting sleep and wants to be up watching everything. So she cries when being put to bed. His mother wants me to walk around and bounce her. Told her no. Im not starting a bad habit. His mother doesn't want me to encourage her sitting up. She believes babies are suppose to be fed and put back to bed. My daughter has bad reflux and has to sit upwards at an incline for 30 minutes or else the acid comes back. She screams and cries and then she spits up alot ot vomits. She refuses to sit my daughter up for 30 minutes. The last time she watched my daughter. My daughter was asleep and when i picked her up she was sleeping in a huge wet spot(covered her head) I smelled it. It was spit up. I stopped letting her watch the baby. She told my fiance i hate her and I dont want her to know her granddaughter. He told her she doesn't listen. And she told him we are first time oarents. We dont know anything.
Fiance and I give our fair share. We food shop for the house and help pay bills but we have no say over anything. His older brother changed the password to the internet that we pay for and didnt want to give us the password. the MIL said oh well hes always had control over the internet. I have yogurts to help with my calcium and was told its very good because I am breastfeeding and helps woth probiotics for baby. we asked no one to touch it but they can have the other stuff. His brother will purposefully eat all of them in one sitting when we arent there. His mother of course protects him and says that his wife doesn't cook for him.
Okder brother son, 10, was told to go check on the baby and he said the baby died. My heart jumped. Baby was fine but i screamed at him and sent him to his mother. MIL got mad at me and me and her got into an argument and told me i cant send him anywhere in her house. Later that day while the baby was sleep the same child came and banged on my room window and startled my daughter awake. I cursed MIL out while fiance screamed at his nephew and then brother. Fiance and brother got into a dispute because his brother came in at midnight with a bunch of friends making so much racket and made our fussy one wake up. He asked them to keep it down some. His mother said noise is good for the baby and his brother told him she will learn to deal with it.
Today was the last straw. I was in the room while baby was sleeping. I work at home, have my own small business which right now is only breaking even since my pregnancy hindered me getting new students. His mother decides to invite her sister, sisters husband and his sister upstairs to make fun of me while they drank coffee. Then her sister decides to smoke cigarettes right in front of our door so ended up putting a towel trying to block the smell out. Then a few minutes later his older brother joined in. Yes I cried and called my fiance on his break my fiance broke out in tears. He said he doesn't understand why his family is acting like this and we only have a 7 week old.
My mom just got her hands on a playpen and finally has enough space for me and my daughter to sleep in the living room. I told fiance until we move in March I will be staying with my mom. He is sad and worries our daughter is going to forget him. He is very angry with his mother and family. But understands why i want to leave. He wanted to say something to his mother again but i told him no. im tired of arguing with his family. I told him ill grant their wish and leave. But in return I don't want my child knowing his family. She doesn't need to be around such rude people and I feel they will treat her the same way.
His family has been less than supportive. His brother doesn't want to bond with the child and made a comment that my child isn't his most likely because I am black and everyone knows black females try to oin babies on people. He shut his tune when the baby came out looking just like DF. From head shape, straight hair, pale skin to the same exact birth mark that each of their family members from his father side has. (weirded me out)
Am I wrong for this? I am so fed up with his family and am glad I can finally stay with my mom. Should I just wait until shes older to introduce her to his family? Should I wait until she asks? Idk i just don't want her to be subjected to this like she is now.
Everything I ask for is such an inconvenience to them so they say
We recently had a discussion about the dirty dog coming through the house. The dog looks like she has mange. I left it. But now the dog keeps trying to come in the room. I asked if they could tell me when the dog is passing through so I can close the door to where the baby is. A huge argument started and was told by fiance brother that i can't come in dictating rules and that he can evict me whenever he wants. Fiance and his brother almost got into a fist fight that night. More things were brought up and said because his brother committed fraud in his name and more.
MIL talks about me in Spanish like I dont understand what she is saying (7 years of spanish) and her sister comes and talks about me as well. When approached by me and fiance they claim they didnt say anything. I repeat to them in spanish what theyve said and they said oh they were just playing or tell fiance that I didn't probably properly understand. Yet they still do it when DF is at work.
His mother is always insulting how I care for my baby. She tells me she has 3 children and they grew up fine. (Even though one had a brain infection thanks to her and is now mentally challenges which she thinks my DF never told me) . she thinks my daughter isn't suppose to cry fornmore than 2 minutes. She hounds me and I had to tell her to back off. Babies cry, thats what they do. My daughter who is almost 2 months is now at the stage of fighting sleep and wants to be up watching everything. So she cries when being put to bed. His mother wants me to walk around and bounce her. Told her no. Im not starting a bad habit. His mother doesn't want me to encourage her sitting up. She believes babies are suppose to be fed and put back to bed. My daughter has bad reflux and has to sit upwards at an incline for 30 minutes or else the acid comes back. She screams and cries and then she spits up alot ot vomits. She refuses to sit my daughter up for 30 minutes. The last time she watched my daughter. My daughter was asleep and when i picked her up she was sleeping in a huge wet spot(covered her head) I smelled it. It was spit up. I stopped letting her watch the baby. She told my fiance i hate her and I dont want her to know her granddaughter. He told her she doesn't listen. And she told him we are first time oarents. We dont know anything.
Fiance and I give our fair share. We food shop for the house and help pay bills but we have no say over anything. His older brother changed the password to the internet that we pay for and didnt want to give us the password. the MIL said oh well hes always had control over the internet. I have yogurts to help with my calcium and was told its very good because I am breastfeeding and helps woth probiotics for baby. we asked no one to touch it but they can have the other stuff. His brother will purposefully eat all of them in one sitting when we arent there. His mother of course protects him and says that his wife doesn't cook for him.
Okder brother son, 10, was told to go check on the baby and he said the baby died. My heart jumped. Baby was fine but i screamed at him and sent him to his mother. MIL got mad at me and me and her got into an argument and told me i cant send him anywhere in her house. Later that day while the baby was sleep the same child came and banged on my room window and startled my daughter awake. I cursed MIL out while fiance screamed at his nephew and then brother. Fiance and brother got into a dispute because his brother came in at midnight with a bunch of friends making so much racket and made our fussy one wake up. He asked them to keep it down some. His mother said noise is good for the baby and his brother told him she will learn to deal with it.
Today was the last straw. I was in the room while baby was sleeping. I work at home, have my own small business which right now is only breaking even since my pregnancy hindered me getting new students. His mother decides to invite her sister, sisters husband and his sister upstairs to make fun of me while they drank coffee. Then her sister decides to smoke cigarettes right in front of our door so ended up putting a towel trying to block the smell out. Then a few minutes later his older brother joined in. Yes I cried and called my fiance on his break my fiance broke out in tears. He said he doesn't understand why his family is acting like this and we only have a 7 week old.
My mom just got her hands on a playpen and finally has enough space for me and my daughter to sleep in the living room. I told fiance until we move in March I will be staying with my mom. He is sad and worries our daughter is going to forget him. He is very angry with his mother and family. But understands why i want to leave. He wanted to say something to his mother again but i told him no. im tired of arguing with his family. I told him ill grant their wish and leave. But in return I don't want my child knowing his family. She doesn't need to be around such rude people and I feel they will treat her the same way.
His family has been less than supportive. His brother doesn't want to bond with the child and made a comment that my child isn't his most likely because I am black and everyone knows black females try to oin babies on people. He shut his tune when the baby came out looking just like DF. From head shape, straight hair, pale skin to the same exact birth mark that each of their family members from his father side has. (weirded me out)
Am I wrong for this? I am so fed up with his family and am glad I can finally stay with my mom. Should I just wait until shes older to introduce her to his family? Should I wait until she asks? Idk i just don't want her to be subjected to this like she is now.