My SIL and I were pregant with our 1st children at the same time and they are born 2 weeks apart and mil had a serious case of babies rabies and saw them as her do over babies.
They are very different kids. DNe was a quiet "easy" baby, slept through the night at 6 weeks and is social butterfly as a toddler while DD is high needs and had to be physically touching me at all times for her 1st 9 months (or she just screamed) never slept, was hard work and still is as a 2 year old (she's a awesome kid)
This caused a lot of tension with my Inlaws as they expected (as DNe was as well as with them as daycare) to have DD over nights and for weekends and for her to Love them more than me. (FIL said to dd no you don't want mummy. Your meant to love Nono more)
I have said No not going to happen to overnights and days as I don't want dd to be raised by his grandparents like DH was. DNe is now an obvious favourite.
Dd only tolerates then for about 10 min before she starts yelling "Go Home. Let's go home."
We recieved an invite to DNe birthday party which starts at 7pm so I declined as DD has dropped all her day naps and is in bed by 6/6.30pm.
My BIL sent a text in reply accusing me of trying to keep Dd from the family and that its my fault she hates them. (She's 2 and doesn't like people in her face)
I Bh'ed the text to show Dh when we got home.
I have a huge DUH problem as he thinks we should just try and go as its a special occasion. (I told him to go to the birthday without us and we will visit the next day at a reasonable time)
My both of my Inlaws have called DH accusing me of not respecting their culture and stopping DH and DD from seeing them.
Is it really that unreasonable to not go to a 7pm party with a toddler or have I just stirred up a whole nest of BSC??
They are very different kids. DNe was a quiet "easy" baby, slept through the night at 6 weeks and is social butterfly as a toddler while DD is high needs and had to be physically touching me at all times for her 1st 9 months (or she just screamed) never slept, was hard work and still is as a 2 year old (she's a awesome kid)
This caused a lot of tension with my Inlaws as they expected (as DNe was as well as with them as daycare) to have DD over nights and for weekends and for her to Love them more than me. (FIL said to dd no you don't want mummy. Your meant to love Nono more)
I have said No not going to happen to overnights and days as I don't want dd to be raised by his grandparents like DH was. DNe is now an obvious favourite.
Dd only tolerates then for about 10 min before she starts yelling "Go Home. Let's go home."
We recieved an invite to DNe birthday party which starts at 7pm so I declined as DD has dropped all her day naps and is in bed by 6/6.30pm.
My BIL sent a text in reply accusing me of trying to keep Dd from the family and that its my fault she hates them. (She's 2 and doesn't like people in her face)
I Bh'ed the text to show Dh when we got home.
I have a huge DUH problem as he thinks we should just try and go as its a special occasion. (I told him to go to the birthday without us and we will visit the next day at a reasonable time)
My both of my Inlaws have called DH accusing me of not respecting their culture and stopping DH and DD from seeing them.
Is it really that unreasonable to not go to a 7pm party with a toddler or have I just stirred up a whole nest of BSC??