DH and I discussed a time line for having visitors after LO is born next month. We agreed on no visitors at the hospital or for a full week at home. My parent's are coming after the second week when DH is back at work. PIL would like to come around the same time to spend time with my folks (overlapping for a long weekend). Issue at hand is their dog. He's never hurt anyone and is gentle but he also growls at people. I love dogs but have never been comfortable with the idea of them getting too close to little kids (parents are both in the medical field and I grew up hearing stories of little kids getting bitten by pets, so I might be more fearful than other dog people out there).
Bottom line - I do not want them to bring their dog when they come to visit. He's never been here before, and I do not want to deal with or worry about the dog while adjusting to my newborn. In fact, I likely won't be able to relax with the dog around because I will worry about proximity to LO. PIL completely trust their dog so they do not understand my fears.
DH backed me up and told them they needed to leave the dog at home or find a pet friendly hotel near us and keep him there. They then compared me to DH's ex, who never let any of PIL dogs into her home with DH. I really don't appreciate being compared to a woman who caused DH tremendous pain over a decade plus long marriage.
I wasn't present for this conversation so I don't have all the details. If questioned by MIL, what's a good comeback line? If im pressured to bring the dog the following month, how do I politely ask to defer this conversation?
Bottom line - I do not want them to bring their dog when they come to visit. He's never been here before, and I do not want to deal with or worry about the dog while adjusting to my newborn. In fact, I likely won't be able to relax with the dog around because I will worry about proximity to LO. PIL completely trust their dog so they do not understand my fears.
DH backed me up and told them they needed to leave the dog at home or find a pet friendly hotel near us and keep him there. They then compared me to DH's ex, who never let any of PIL dogs into her home with DH. I really don't appreciate being compared to a woman who caused DH tremendous pain over a decade plus long marriage.
I wasn't present for this conversation so I don't have all the details. If questioned by MIL, what's a good comeback line? If im pressured to bring the dog the following month, how do I politely ask to defer this conversation?
