First time poster, long time lurker.
BG: We went on a family vacation which we just got home from. We went with my parents as well as my sister and her family. BIL was making comments over the course of the week towards our 8 year old son. I just need help in deciding how to handle this situation or if I should just let it go.
Example: Popcorn was made for a movie we were about to watch. Our 8 yr old DS goes into the kitchen and jokingly says "Don't eat all the popcorn before the movie starts!" He kinda laughed when he said it because obviously he was trying to joke with him. BIL then replys something like "I can do what I want to ... I will get some more if I want." Just really rude like with a mean look on his face.
Then another night, when we were watching another movie. Me, DH, and DS were on one couch and my sister and her DH were on the other couch. My DS had earphones with the tablet because we told him he couldn't watch the movie because it was PG-13 so he was watching something on his tablet. (There was nowhere else for him to go) Well, something loud happened on the movie and he took his earphones out and asked, "What happened!?" BIL then looked at him saying "It's not your concern. Put your headphones back in and continue what you were doing. You're not even supposed to be watching this movie." The tone he said it in was very disciplinary.. almost getting onto him. We were definitely mad because we were sitting right beside our son which we can handle ourselves.In the moment, I didn't think the movie was that bad so I said our son could watch it with us even though BIL told him to stop watching it.
During the movie, BIL was going on and on because they kept saying the word "shit." "Couldn't they choose any other word." I replied that we should have gotten a movie that was rated G or PG so there wouldn't be as much cussing if it bothered him so much. He completely ruined the movie for everyone by repeatedly talking about then cussing and using God's name in vain. Anyways, thats another story. But then, the next day he writes a post on the debil saying how parents should be aware and not to let their kids near this movie because it was so bad yada yada yada. I felt like he was basically calling us bad parents for letting our son watch it.
I asked my husband not to say anything at the time even though he was fuming from many other comments he made as well. Maybe it was wrong, but I just wanted to keep the peace because we were at my grandmother's house and she doesn't need all that drama. But at the same time, I failed our child because I didn't say anything. That's how I feel, but can someone please tell me what I should do?
Should I say something now that we are home? This is what my husband wants me to do I'm just not sure how to start. My sister is very submissive to her husband and is very .... laid back. So I'm not sure what will happen. My husband is very outspoken and very blunt so I would rather take care of it, but I'm struggling. Call her? Email her?
BTW we are very close. We live close and see each other pretty often ... maybe one every one or two months we get together.
Thanks for reading!
