We are three months from my due date. DH and I took our babymoon last month to coincide with our actual vacation time. Before leaving, we completed our baby boys nursery in a theme surrounding DH and I ideas. MIL was staying at our home while away, because we have two golden retrievers. We weren't able to find a sitter and her house doesn't have outdoor space for them. She's been amazing before, so we saw nothing wrong with having her stay by us with the dogs.
When we got back, we found our sons nursery completely changed. We have letters of his name on one side of the wall, she changed the color of the letters. We had monkey, giraffe and lion stickers on the wall, she took them down. Where we had the crib, she changed it around and placed it in a different position. All the onesies or other outfits I got from friends or family, she placed in a plastic bag and stored them in the basement, while keeping the ones DH, she and I bought so far.
We were appalled and shocked how low she stooped. Then she took our goldens and had them shaved because according to her, the fur was a mess and we need to realize having a baby around pets means no fur.
DH and I were speechless at how she decided to over step in our life's this way. We spoke with her sternly especially with DH cursing her. Doing such things were wrong, and she still didn't feel she was wrong. She was the host of my shower, it's next month. The location was a place she got from a friend. She paid 1200 for reserving it. She ordered 30 decorative balloons and banners for the shower. They cost 475. After I told her off based on her previous actions, she sent a bill of refund for the shower. I told her she's not welcome at my shower. So she feels she is right by canceling the place and balloons, and sent us a refund bill asking we pay her 1675.
DH and I are not paying it. We decided to have the shower at our house.
She's telling family don't go to it after how we treated her.
Are we being harsh?
When we got back, we found our sons nursery completely changed. We have letters of his name on one side of the wall, she changed the color of the letters. We had monkey, giraffe and lion stickers on the wall, she took them down. Where we had the crib, she changed it around and placed it in a different position. All the onesies or other outfits I got from friends or family, she placed in a plastic bag and stored them in the basement, while keeping the ones DH, she and I bought so far.
We were appalled and shocked how low she stooped. Then she took our goldens and had them shaved because according to her, the fur was a mess and we need to realize having a baby around pets means no fur.
DH and I were speechless at how she decided to over step in our life's this way. We spoke with her sternly especially with DH cursing her. Doing such things were wrong, and she still didn't feel she was wrong. She was the host of my shower, it's next month. The location was a place she got from a friend. She paid 1200 for reserving it. She ordered 30 decorative balloons and banners for the shower. They cost 475. After I told her off based on her previous actions, she sent a bill of refund for the shower. I told her she's not welcome at my shower. So she feels she is right by canceling the place and balloons, and sent us a refund bill asking we pay her 1675.
DH and I are not paying it. We decided to have the shower at our house.
She's telling family don't go to it after how we treated her.
Are we being harsh?