**trigger about possible fake pregnancy***
My sister in law had her tubes tied 15 years ago. She got divorced and when she started seeing her new boyfriend last year they kept talking about having a child. She kept joking she's too old probably (44) but kept the guy going thinking it was just her age. She'd say every visit "oh we really want a baby but I guess I'm just too old. We've really been trying with no luck! Guess my eggs are all dried up.". My husband and I thought it was insanely weird but just did the awkward laugh and didn't say anything because what in the heck do you say to that?
Now she is claiming to be pregnant. She texted and told me and told me not to tell anyone especially her mom. Oddly, their mom (mil) was talking to DH that same day and told him she was pregnant and not to tell sil we knew. How weird is that? Dh was like, don't tell me other people's business if I'm not supposed to know it because we don't play games.
So I was like, possibly I'm just flat out wrong. Even though mil remembers her getting her tubes tied because she had to babysit the children when it happened. Even though she told me she did.
So she texts me about morning sickness and I was helping her out and asked her when she was going to the doctor. She says she's due in August and she'd get around to calling eventually. Now, a month later, she still hasn't gone to the doctor or even made an appointment.
I KNOW I could be wrong. I know it. Maybe I am. If that baby comes out of her I August I'll gladly say I'm was completely wrong. But I think she's faking this and I fully expect her to say she's had a miscarriage in the coming weeks. I will be furious. Though we have three children we had a horrible miscarriage with our first pregnancy and I almost bled to death. I can't deal with someone faking that to get attention.
Would you call her out on it if it happens or just ignore and avoid her forever? She used to live with a family member and made up this long story about that person faking a pregnancy while I was pregnant and now she's doing it and it's exactly the same. She had me terrified that cousin was going to try and steal our daughter and told me she was using my ultrasounds from Facebook and doctor information and I ended up deleting facebook over it. I think SIL might have made that all up because not one person ever mentioned that cousin being pregnant. Ever.
A 44 year old woman not going to the doctor or even concerned about it when they are 3 months along? She has other kids, this isn't her first go at pregnancy. I'm just not sure how to approach this. I know I could be wrong but I think this woman might be lying and mentally ill. Wwyd?
My sister in law had her tubes tied 15 years ago. She got divorced and when she started seeing her new boyfriend last year they kept talking about having a child. She kept joking she's too old probably (44) but kept the guy going thinking it was just her age. She'd say every visit "oh we really want a baby but I guess I'm just too old. We've really been trying with no luck! Guess my eggs are all dried up.". My husband and I thought it was insanely weird but just did the awkward laugh and didn't say anything because what in the heck do you say to that?
Now she is claiming to be pregnant. She texted and told me and told me not to tell anyone especially her mom. Oddly, their mom (mil) was talking to DH that same day and told him she was pregnant and not to tell sil we knew. How weird is that? Dh was like, don't tell me other people's business if I'm not supposed to know it because we don't play games.
So I was like, possibly I'm just flat out wrong. Even though mil remembers her getting her tubes tied because she had to babysit the children when it happened. Even though she told me she did.
So she texts me about morning sickness and I was helping her out and asked her when she was going to the doctor. She says she's due in August and she'd get around to calling eventually. Now, a month later, she still hasn't gone to the doctor or even made an appointment.
I KNOW I could be wrong. I know it. Maybe I am. If that baby comes out of her I August I'll gladly say I'm was completely wrong. But I think she's faking this and I fully expect her to say she's had a miscarriage in the coming weeks. I will be furious. Though we have three children we had a horrible miscarriage with our first pregnancy and I almost bled to death. I can't deal with someone faking that to get attention.
Would you call her out on it if it happens or just ignore and avoid her forever? She used to live with a family member and made up this long story about that person faking a pregnancy while I was pregnant and now she's doing it and it's exactly the same. She had me terrified that cousin was going to try and steal our daughter and told me she was using my ultrasounds from Facebook and doctor information and I ended up deleting facebook over it. I think SIL might have made that all up because not one person ever mentioned that cousin being pregnant. Ever.
A 44 year old woman not going to the doctor or even concerned about it when they are 3 months along? She has other kids, this isn't her first go at pregnancy. I'm just not sure how to approach this. I know I could be wrong but I think this woman might be lying and mentally ill. Wwyd?