Lurker here, made an account to post about this because it's bothering me.
My husband and I have been married for two years. We're close to both sides of the family but don't live super close to them. It's a 5 hour flight to visit my husband's family and a 4 hour flight to visit mine, so we only see them a couple of times per year. My husband is First Nations which is relevant only because of the comment from my mom.
My husband and I have twin boys who were born on Halloween, so almost 4 months old now. At Christmastime, we made a trip to visit his parents, then mine, so this situation happened awhile ago (over New Years) but it's been haunting me since.
While we were visiting my mom and dad, my mom made a comment to my aunt that I overheard. She said "thank god the boys look more like Braydybear and not like Indians at all." My aunt said "that isn't a nice thing to say" and my mom didn't say anything. She's never mentioned it again, but it makes me bristle now every time she talks about the boys' looks or how much they look like me because I think about this and it eats at me.
She's never been rude to my husband, but I can't help thinking about it and thinking about her in a different light. I'm thinking about limiting contact and pictures of the kids but how? Do I even have to say anything about it? Any advice is appreciated.
PS: I've been informed that "Indian" in regard to First Nations people isn't considered offensive everywhere but here in Canada it's pretty offensive. Besides that I think the comment in and of itself was kind of insensitive.