Damn it. I'm on a high speed train in the middle of Asia writing a dwil post and LO kicks my phone and erases it. what a butt. She's so lucky she's cute.
Long story short - still really long... Sorry. my YB betrayed me. DH and I have a strict no posting photos of LO policy or no sharing photos, including emailing, of LO without our permission. And I found out today that YB has been secretly passing these photos to my eeeeelc foo who has been sending them to God knows who in an effort to play gpoty.
Triggers!!! Foo beat the shit out of us as kids, cheated on my mom, never paid a cent in child support, and traded custody for the house and car leaving my mom to work 3 jobs. Foo sucks ass. Typical deadbeat dad.
Anyway foo has always been a master manipulator and YB always falls for his shit. It's just a fact of life. YB and I only ever argue about foo so we don't talk about it because we argue every time.
As mentioned, I'm in Asia visiting our extended family. We are going to meet my uncle and aunt, foos brother and his wife, and I mention to YB earlier today. YB says he thinks I should meet foo too. I tell him I was going to, in a group setting for an hour, UNTIL two days ago, foo shares a photo of me and LO I posted. I reamed foo out and was like stop it! This is the second time he's shared a post of me and LO to his Facebook where God knows who sees this. So I told foo because he can't respect my boundaries, the visit is off the table and I will not be seeing him. I tell YB this.
YB tells me I'm ridiculous. Sigh. Fine. Whether. Then I get an inkling that something isn't right and something my fm aunt said a few days ago clicks. I've made it abundantly clear to not share or pass along photos of LO. Especially not to foo. YB knows this. The other day my aunt, sent as a fm, mentions how my dad is sooo good with understanding my need for privacy and only sends pics of LO in their group chat via the line app. I'm like whaaa? Since uncle is on Facebook too, i just wrote it off as a fm attempt because she can see all of my photos on Facebook too so that whole argument is moot and pointless since he's not getting any pics of LO anyway that aren't on my Facebook. Until just a couple of hours ago, I realize wait... He may be getting them from YB even though YB has been told to not. I've asked YB this before a year or so ago and he's said no. I just chalk it up to my general discomfort of foo. Just an hour ago, I asked my YB again if he's been sending foo pics. He says yes and he's not even apologetic. What the fuck.
I tell him exactly how I feel and that I feel he's disregarding my parenting and it hurts me and he tells me I'm irrational and crazy for my rules. I also sent my foo a message basically saying how dare he manipulate my brother and stop sharing them with people against my wishes because that's not ok at all. And that he doesn't have a relationship with me and he sure as fuck isn't going to have one with my child. But much more expletive laden, because damn it, I am pissed. DH is pissed at YB and is pretty much done with him. I sent DH screen shots of the convo and he was appalled at how YB spoke to me and how he was not even apologetic.
Oh fun story for noms. After LO was born, I sent foo a courtesy email thanks to DH and his mini unicorn. Foo posts on Facebook before anyone that he's become a grandpa. That's all he posted. I sent him a message asking him what the fuck he thought he was doing and he puts up another message saying sorry not my news to share without deleting the first one. God damn it. I've just kept him on eeeelc for YB. Because I literally don't even care for him and only am polite for my brothers sake. I'm done with foo. It's YB I'm not sure what to do next?
So dwil, I'm not insane or overreacting am I? I told my mom I'm taking a to from YB until I can think about him without wanting to punch his stupid smug face. I'm pretty much on the CO train with foo. My mom says ok, she understands, because she's smart and also doesn't want to lose access to LO. She's never going to send YB any photos again. Is there anything else I'm missing?
Seriously. Guys. I've asked him over the last 2 years to not share information about LO with foo. And he agreed. He knew. And he still did. He's been lying to me for 2 years. I confronted him via text and instead of saying sorry, he tells me I'm insane and he was doing what's right. He's 26, not like he's a small child. And he's not a parent, and he has no right to make decisions about my child even if he was. I am just so beyond upset. My YB and I are the only siblings, we survived all of this abuse together, and he's siding with our pos foo. He is clearly siding with him.
I called him out. I told him he was not a parent and not my child's parent and that he has no right to override mine and DH's parenting choices. He actually told me he's not taking sides but by going against my expressed wishes, he made his choice didn't he?
Not hair flipping. Train is done and we are going to touristy stuff so I'll be on my phone in and out. My whole day is ruined guys![:(]( ":(")
Long story short - still really long... Sorry. my YB betrayed me. DH and I have a strict no posting photos of LO policy or no sharing photos, including emailing, of LO without our permission. And I found out today that YB has been secretly passing these photos to my eeeeelc foo who has been sending them to God knows who in an effort to play gpoty.
Triggers!!! Foo beat the shit out of us as kids, cheated on my mom, never paid a cent in child support, and traded custody for the house and car leaving my mom to work 3 jobs. Foo sucks ass. Typical deadbeat dad.
Anyway foo has always been a master manipulator and YB always falls for his shit. It's just a fact of life. YB and I only ever argue about foo so we don't talk about it because we argue every time.
As mentioned, I'm in Asia visiting our extended family. We are going to meet my uncle and aunt, foos brother and his wife, and I mention to YB earlier today. YB says he thinks I should meet foo too. I tell him I was going to, in a group setting for an hour, UNTIL two days ago, foo shares a photo of me and LO I posted. I reamed foo out and was like stop it! This is the second time he's shared a post of me and LO to his Facebook where God knows who sees this. So I told foo because he can't respect my boundaries, the visit is off the table and I will not be seeing him. I tell YB this.
YB tells me I'm ridiculous. Sigh. Fine. Whether. Then I get an inkling that something isn't right and something my fm aunt said a few days ago clicks. I've made it abundantly clear to not share or pass along photos of LO. Especially not to foo. YB knows this. The other day my aunt, sent as a fm, mentions how my dad is sooo good with understanding my need for privacy and only sends pics of LO in their group chat via the line app. I'm like whaaa? Since uncle is on Facebook too, i just wrote it off as a fm attempt because she can see all of my photos on Facebook too so that whole argument is moot and pointless since he's not getting any pics of LO anyway that aren't on my Facebook. Until just a couple of hours ago, I realize wait... He may be getting them from YB even though YB has been told to not. I've asked YB this before a year or so ago and he's said no. I just chalk it up to my general discomfort of foo. Just an hour ago, I asked my YB again if he's been sending foo pics. He says yes and he's not even apologetic. What the fuck.
I tell him exactly how I feel and that I feel he's disregarding my parenting and it hurts me and he tells me I'm irrational and crazy for my rules. I also sent my foo a message basically saying how dare he manipulate my brother and stop sharing them with people against my wishes because that's not ok at all. And that he doesn't have a relationship with me and he sure as fuck isn't going to have one with my child. But much more expletive laden, because damn it, I am pissed. DH is pissed at YB and is pretty much done with him. I sent DH screen shots of the convo and he was appalled at how YB spoke to me and how he was not even apologetic.
Oh fun story for noms. After LO was born, I sent foo a courtesy email thanks to DH and his mini unicorn. Foo posts on Facebook before anyone that he's become a grandpa. That's all he posted. I sent him a message asking him what the fuck he thought he was doing and he puts up another message saying sorry not my news to share without deleting the first one. God damn it. I've just kept him on eeeelc for YB. Because I literally don't even care for him and only am polite for my brothers sake. I'm done with foo. It's YB I'm not sure what to do next?
So dwil, I'm not insane or overreacting am I? I told my mom I'm taking a to from YB until I can think about him without wanting to punch his stupid smug face. I'm pretty much on the CO train with foo. My mom says ok, she understands, because she's smart and also doesn't want to lose access to LO. She's never going to send YB any photos again. Is there anything else I'm missing?
Seriously. Guys. I've asked him over the last 2 years to not share information about LO with foo. And he agreed. He knew. And he still did. He's been lying to me for 2 years. I confronted him via text and instead of saying sorry, he tells me I'm insane and he was doing what's right. He's 26, not like he's a small child. And he's not a parent, and he has no right to make decisions about my child even if he was. I am just so beyond upset. My YB and I are the only siblings, we survived all of this abuse together, and he's siding with our pos foo. He is clearly siding with him.
I called him out. I told him he was not a parent and not my child's parent and that he has no right to override mine and DH's parenting choices. He actually told me he's not taking sides but by going against my expressed wishes, he made his choice didn't he?
Not hair flipping. Train is done and we are going to touristy stuff so I'll be on my phone in and out. My whole day is ruined guys
