I'll put my BG in the comments, but I finally blocked my mom from my phone and on the debil after some stupid Christmas comments and a couple of other things (I'll include them after the questions for the noms). I haven't heard anything from either her or my dad about it yet, which basically confirms that they just don't give a shit.
So here's my question: since they are apparently not BSC, and really just don't care, will going ELC be effective? I'm thinking that they would not be invited to my home, I would not go to events in their home, and we would only see each other at extended family events (graduation parties, weddings, etc.) They tend to play about five minutes of POTY and GOTY at large events then ignore the kids and I. We would no longer do holidays with them, with the exception of large (20+ people) events hosted by my grandmothers. I am not very worried about FM, I've dicussed with my aunt that my mom is blocked on my phone, and her response translated to: "Good for you for finally taking the plunge." The reason for going ELC rather than CO would be to still attend large family events.
Llama noms:
During my sister's one week Christmas visit, my mom told my sister that she had "given up on me," that she was so glad she had our youngest sister "because she finally got a child she enjoyed," and as we were pulling out of the driveway from our Christmas visit (two hours) "that went better than expected."
Twice in a single week my dad sent the entire family a Facebook message outlining in lots of detail "Gma's surgery." He then went quiet while my sister and I freaked out about which Grandma was in the hospital. Turns out he was just copying and pasting from e-mails about my great-aunt, whom I haven't seen in probably five years.(When my actual grandma was in the hospital, my aunt called to tell me the details).
That Facebook group is now dedicated to blow-by-blow updates of a medical condition that my brother is dealing with. The "funny" thing is that I had the exact same tests for the exact same symptoms a couple years ago and no one even called me to see how I was doing (my mom did tell me how much sicker she was than me, and commented on how terrible I looked when I visited).
The straw that broke the camel's back is that the one thing that my mom has ever complimented me on/encouraged me in has been my writing. I had my first article published last week and it apparently was a BIG DEAL... to everyone but my parents. My sisters, cousins, aunts, former students, all shared the article on the debil, and several people messaged me to say they like it. Complete silence from my parents.
