I am so livid. Some back story: my aunt (my moms sister) has been very nasty to me for a long time. I just got married in June and actually conceived the baby I'm carrying on the honeymoon ! Anyways rewind to the wedding. My aunt didn't come to my bridal shower, came to the ceremony and didn't come to the reception. She claimed it was because she has back problems however she painted her whole garage the next weekend. She didn't buy me we a wedding present or a card wishing me well (which didn't bug me too much but bugged my mom a lot ) so My mother got involved, messaged my aunt and said she was very hurt the way my aunt had blown off my wedding and that when her eldest daughter (who is the same age as me) gets married she would not do the same. She went off on my mom and proceeded to go off on me telling me if I had a problem I can say it to her a face, I'm a selfish bi*** and some extremely cruel things. She then found out I was pregnant, she messaged me apologizing and said she's so excited about my baby and she didn't want to fight anymore. I let it blow over because honestly much of my family is dead and my family is small and I don't want my daughter to not have many people in her life.
now fast forward to three in the morning a couple months later.. my aunt messages me saying I've heard some rumours that you're talking about my eldest daughter. You're going to be a mother now, it's time to stop being such a crappy person, and that I have no character. I believe I know exactly the incident she is taking about. When I was 11 weeks pregnant there was a bouncy castle and my whole family was inside and they asked me to go in. I said I couldn't I was pregnant. My eldest cousin (she's my age) told me it's not even a real baby yet, you can go in. I said I'm 11 weeks it is so a real baby. She said well technically you can still get an abortion for a week so it's not real. And I just looked at her in disbelief !! and she continued on and said "Hey look you still have one week to get an abortion to fix yourself before it's too late" I was so shocked.. And upset. And mad. This baby was planned and I was floored. I mentioned this incident to a mutual friend and said I really resent her for that comment. The mutual friend and her spent time together over Christmas and then these messages are coming in from my aunt. So I'm sure she passed it on.
After this whole incident I said I was done I'm not going to keep forgiving to get into the same cycle with these two toxic people over and over again. Now I'm 37 weeks pregnant, my husband had been admitted to the hospital for pancreatitis/gall stones/ and who knows what. He's really not doing well at all and I'm freaking. My mother told my grandmother who told my aunt who texted me saying how are things hunny, were worried about you.. I just thought I had my mind so made up but I'm feeling so weak, alone and scared right now. So my question here is what on earth do I do?
They've done nothing but try to bring me down and hurt me ever since I met DH And got pregnant. I was in a very abusive relationship before so I would think my family of all people would be happy to see me so happy but they seem to resent it..
This is really just such a rant. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else here has dealt with toxic family members, did you cut them out, did you regret it ? I'm just so scared of my daughter growing up with no family ..
now fast forward to three in the morning a couple months later.. my aunt messages me saying I've heard some rumours that you're talking about my eldest daughter. You're going to be a mother now, it's time to stop being such a crappy person, and that I have no character. I believe I know exactly the incident she is taking about. When I was 11 weeks pregnant there was a bouncy castle and my whole family was inside and they asked me to go in. I said I couldn't I was pregnant. My eldest cousin (she's my age) told me it's not even a real baby yet, you can go in. I said I'm 11 weeks it is so a real baby. She said well technically you can still get an abortion for a week so it's not real. And I just looked at her in disbelief !! and she continued on and said "Hey look you still have one week to get an abortion to fix yourself before it's too late" I was so shocked.. And upset. And mad. This baby was planned and I was floored. I mentioned this incident to a mutual friend and said I really resent her for that comment. The mutual friend and her spent time together over Christmas and then these messages are coming in from my aunt. So I'm sure she passed it on.
After this whole incident I said I was done I'm not going to keep forgiving to get into the same cycle with these two toxic people over and over again. Now I'm 37 weeks pregnant, my husband had been admitted to the hospital for pancreatitis/gall stones/ and who knows what. He's really not doing well at all and I'm freaking. My mother told my grandmother who told my aunt who texted me saying how are things hunny, were worried about you.. I just thought I had my mind so made up but I'm feeling so weak, alone and scared right now. So my question here is what on earth do I do?
They've done nothing but try to bring me down and hurt me ever since I met DH And got pregnant. I was in a very abusive relationship before so I would think my family of all people would be happy to see me so happy but they seem to resent it..
This is really just such a rant. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else here has dealt with toxic family members, did you cut them out, did you regret it ? I'm just so scared of my daughter growing up with no family ..
