BG: DH and I have been married 8 years and have a 10 month old DD. MIL and I had a great relationship (or so I thought) until I got pregnant. Since then:
She thought it was funny to call me "fatty" during my pregnancy. I laughed it off the first time. Eventually DH told her to stop.
She came over the day we came home from the hospital and just sat there expecting to be entertained. Made comments about the baby eating so much and then left because all the baby did was eat and sleep.
So many breastfeeding comments. Was I sure baby was getting enough? Could I tell I was getting a let down? (I had retained placenta and low supply so bfing was a challenge. We're still going strong!)
She asked when we were going to "just leave the baby to cry" multiple times starting at 3 weeks. My response was Never....
All of this made her my BEC. Recently though she has started to pull from the PA handbook.
She bought us tickets to a concert so she could babysit DD. We found other childcare.
She comments on how she "doesn't know what to tell her friends" when they ask about DD because "she hasn't seen her in so long" (She sees her every couple weeks)
She tries to take family pictures without me in them. I sat my as down and refused to budge.
My DH is on my side and we are a team. I am checking out boundaries from the library. We have never set any boundaries or called her out on her behavior so we need advice. If we want to try to have a limited relationship, where do we start? She didn't used to be like this so it's throwing us for a loop.
Bless you if you read all of this.
She thought it was funny to call me "fatty" during my pregnancy. I laughed it off the first time. Eventually DH told her to stop.
She came over the day we came home from the hospital and just sat there expecting to be entertained. Made comments about the baby eating so much and then left because all the baby did was eat and sleep.
So many breastfeeding comments. Was I sure baby was getting enough? Could I tell I was getting a let down? (I had retained placenta and low supply so bfing was a challenge. We're still going strong!)
She asked when we were going to "just leave the baby to cry" multiple times starting at 3 weeks. My response was Never....
All of this made her my BEC. Recently though she has started to pull from the PA handbook.
She bought us tickets to a concert so she could babysit DD. We found other childcare.
She comments on how she "doesn't know what to tell her friends" when they ask about DD because "she hasn't seen her in so long" (She sees her every couple weeks)
She tries to take family pictures without me in them. I sat my as down and refused to budge.
My DH is on my side and we are a team. I am checking out boundaries from the library. We have never set any boundaries or called her out on her behavior so we need advice. If we want to try to have a limited relationship, where do we start? She didn't used to be like this so it's throwing us for a loop.
Bless you if you read all of this.