This isn't really a DWIL problem but it requires that I have a strong spine and I need a little help.
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I was abused sexually, physically, emotionally as a child.
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Resulting in a people pleasing doormat with a crippling fear of authority figures. I've grown a lot but I still have trouble gauging appropriate emotions and clam up when confrnoting authority. The authority figure in this case, my kid's principal.
So, on Friday I dropped my kids off at school like I always do and watched them walk into the building. DS, 6yo, is in Kindergarten and DD, 5yo is in PreK. About an hour after I dropped them off, my DD shows up at our house, knocking on the door and sobbing. Somehow she was left unsupervised at school and was able to simply leave the building. Once she left the school she couldn't figure out how to get back in, got scared, and walked home. My DD was terrified and I was livid. What if I hadn't been home? She got hit by a car? Kidnapped?Lost? I called the school and they tried to blame me! They said I dropped DD off too early. We're new to the school but I've dropped my kids off at the same time every morning for over a month and no one has ever said anything to me. They said drop off is between 0745 and 0800. I drop off at 0750 everyday! They were all smiles and complimenting my DD''s resourcefulness. They seemed to think, no harm no foul. They said they would "talk" to the staff member that left DD unsupervised but that doesn't seem like enough to me. Is it?
On another note, about a month ago the school called me to inform that my DS was sick. I arrived to pick him up and they handed me a child that was not mine. Mind you, I'm black and my DS has brown skin and black hair. And my DS''s name starts with an E, this boy''s name started with an X. They gave me a white kid with blonde hair and looked at me like I was crazy when I told them it wasn't my son. I could've walked out the door with someone's child. Turns out my DS was sitting in class, perfectly healthy.
I have an appointment on Monday to discuss my concerns with the principal but I don't even know where to start. Am I overreacting by being so upset? I think I see a pattern of incompetence but, I get emotional when my kids are involved and I want to approach this clearly. What would you say? How would you handle the meeting with the principal? Would you take any other steps? I don't want to clam up in front of the principal and let them rug sweep this incident. TIA
A little BG: TRIGGER
I was abused sexually, physically, emotionally as a child.
END TRIGGER
Resulting in a people pleasing doormat with a crippling fear of authority figures. I've grown a lot but I still have trouble gauging appropriate emotions and clam up when confrnoting authority. The authority figure in this case, my kid's principal.
So, on Friday I dropped my kids off at school like I always do and watched them walk into the building. DS, 6yo, is in Kindergarten and DD, 5yo is in PreK. About an hour after I dropped them off, my DD shows up at our house, knocking on the door and sobbing. Somehow she was left unsupervised at school and was able to simply leave the building. Once she left the school she couldn't figure out how to get back in, got scared, and walked home. My DD was terrified and I was livid. What if I hadn't been home? She got hit by a car? Kidnapped?Lost? I called the school and they tried to blame me! They said I dropped DD off too early. We're new to the school but I've dropped my kids off at the same time every morning for over a month and no one has ever said anything to me. They said drop off is between 0745 and 0800. I drop off at 0750 everyday! They were all smiles and complimenting my DD''s resourcefulness. They seemed to think, no harm no foul. They said they would "talk" to the staff member that left DD unsupervised but that doesn't seem like enough to me. Is it?
On another note, about a month ago the school called me to inform that my DS was sick. I arrived to pick him up and they handed me a child that was not mine. Mind you, I'm black and my DS has brown skin and black hair. And my DS''s name starts with an E, this boy''s name started with an X. They gave me a white kid with blonde hair and looked at me like I was crazy when I told them it wasn't my son. I could've walked out the door with someone's child. Turns out my DS was sitting in class, perfectly healthy.
I have an appointment on Monday to discuss my concerns with the principal but I don't even know where to start. Am I overreacting by being so upset? I think I see a pattern of incompetence but, I get emotional when my kids are involved and I want to approach this clearly. What would you say? How would you handle the meeting with the principal? Would you take any other steps? I don't want to clam up in front of the principal and let them rug sweep this incident. TIA