I have never had any issues with my MIL and genuinely like her but since LO was born things have gone down hill. Little BG I'm a ftm and MIL is divorced and an empty nester.
First issue was she wanted to come stay for 3-4 days after being at the hospital with GMIL who had cdiff. I'm a nurse and said absolutely not and DH went along with it and told her no. Well she cried making him feel like shit but I'm not going to expose my 2 week old to hospital germs and potentially cdiff!
Once she was allowed to visit she was coming almost every other weekend and would stay at our house the entire weekend!! So I finally told DH it was too much. This created a fight bc be didn't understand and just said I had a problem with his mom.
It's been 4 weeks since we've seen her. She asked to come down last weekend but I said no I had just gone back to work and it was rough and I wanted to sit home and cuddle my baby. So she asked to come this weekend DH didn't even ask me this time he just told her no I was working nights and maybe next weekend would be better. I reminded him that his BIL and long term gf (SIL from now on) were coming to stay (they live out of state) and he should make sure they don't mind if she horns in on their time with us and LO.
SIL told me they don't want her there at the same time and told me that MIL talked to them last week about how she can't go that long without seeing LO and if we keep telling her no she's just going to start showing up. BIL texted MIL and told her they were coming and she could either come Saturday night or choose another weekend. She got upset but eventually agreed to Saturday.
Then MIL turns around and asks to come this Saturday again. DH asked me since I was no longer working and I told him no. She doesn't need to come 2 weekends in a row. We agreed on next Saturday and that's what it stays. He got upset and we fought but he told her no. Well she cries and makes him feel like shit so we fight again!!
Anyone I talk to says she visits too much and can't believe my DH is fine with it. I don't know how to get him to see my side of it. He goes along with it but he's not happy telling his mother she can't visit and even made the statement that it wouldn't bother him if she came every weekend (hypothetically)!!! WTH...when is our time together!!
HELP!
First issue was she wanted to come stay for 3-4 days after being at the hospital with GMIL who had cdiff. I'm a nurse and said absolutely not and DH went along with it and told her no. Well she cried making him feel like shit but I'm not going to expose my 2 week old to hospital germs and potentially cdiff!
Once she was allowed to visit she was coming almost every other weekend and would stay at our house the entire weekend!! So I finally told DH it was too much. This created a fight bc be didn't understand and just said I had a problem with his mom.
It's been 4 weeks since we've seen her. She asked to come down last weekend but I said no I had just gone back to work and it was rough and I wanted to sit home and cuddle my baby. So she asked to come this weekend DH didn't even ask me this time he just told her no I was working nights and maybe next weekend would be better. I reminded him that his BIL and long term gf (SIL from now on) were coming to stay (they live out of state) and he should make sure they don't mind if she horns in on their time with us and LO.
SIL told me they don't want her there at the same time and told me that MIL talked to them last week about how she can't go that long without seeing LO and if we keep telling her no she's just going to start showing up. BIL texted MIL and told her they were coming and she could either come Saturday night or choose another weekend. She got upset but eventually agreed to Saturday.
Then MIL turns around and asks to come this Saturday again. DH asked me since I was no longer working and I told him no. She doesn't need to come 2 weekends in a row. We agreed on next Saturday and that's what it stays. He got upset and we fought but he told her no. Well she cries and makes him feel like shit so we fight again!!
Anyone I talk to says she visits too much and can't believe my DH is fine with it. I don't know how to get him to see my side of it. He goes along with it but he's not happy telling his mother she can't visit and even made the statement that it wouldn't bother him if she came every weekend (hypothetically)!!! WTH...when is our time together!!
HELP!