A few weeks ago, I went shopping with my SIL and I ended up buying quite a bit of clothing for my Sis, who is a Freshman in college. I know she hates shopping and putting together outfits, so I picked basic items- tees, tanks, cardigans... stuff she can just throw on and go that look cute but are low maintenance.
I also sent her some hair and beauty products. I put it together like a little spa package. A set of face masks (think cucumber aloe, etc), some hair oil/ deep conditioner, microfiber hair towel, and some neutral makeup basics from MAC and such.
My parents were visiting last week and my mom told me Sis called her when she received the "spa" package and told my mom that I think Sis is ugly because I sent her makeup. I was kinda shocked. Now I am worried she is going to receive the clothes soon and freak out. I feel like I should send a text or something to let her know they are coming and she can return them of she doesn't like them, but that I was thinking of her while I was shopping, but I am not sure how to word it without her thinking I'm"trying to change her." (Her words) Honestly, I think it's a little silly that she is reacting so hyperbolic, and that I must treat her with kid gloves, but that's her personality.
My mom also told told me that Sis thinks I hate her and I'm condescending. Mom says Sis wants to have a close relationship with me (I left home when she was![8)]( "8)")
but I feel like anytime I try to bond with her she pushes me away, so I drop the rope. I'm pretty LC with my family anyway. Sis is young, and she acts young and immature, so I do admit I treat her more like a kid than an adult, but when I try otherwise it seems to blow up in my face. She is so sensitive, and my personality is kinda no nonsense, but I never thought buying her stuff would hurt her feelings, so now I am at a loss for what to do now. Should I text her to let her know they are coming, and how can I word it delicately,? What I think is delicate, she feels is condescending. I actually did text her when I first bought them ( I asked her size and she asked why. I told her I bought some things I thought would look cute on her, but that apparently offended her. She felt I was saying she isn't cute/ doesn't dress cute.) Any advice?
I also sent her some hair and beauty products. I put it together like a little spa package. A set of face masks (think cucumber aloe, etc), some hair oil/ deep conditioner, microfiber hair towel, and some neutral makeup basics from MAC and such.
My parents were visiting last week and my mom told me Sis called her when she received the "spa" package and told my mom that I think Sis is ugly because I sent her makeup. I was kinda shocked. Now I am worried she is going to receive the clothes soon and freak out. I feel like I should send a text or something to let her know they are coming and she can return them of she doesn't like them, but that I was thinking of her while I was shopping, but I am not sure how to word it without her thinking I'm"trying to change her." (Her words) Honestly, I think it's a little silly that she is reacting so hyperbolic, and that I must treat her with kid gloves, but that's her personality.
My mom also told told me that Sis thinks I hate her and I'm condescending. Mom says Sis wants to have a close relationship with me (I left home when she was
but I feel like anytime I try to bond with her she pushes me away, so I drop the rope. I'm pretty LC with my family anyway. Sis is young, and she acts young and immature, so I do admit I treat her more like a kid than an adult, but when I try otherwise it seems to blow up in my face. She is so sensitive, and my personality is kinda no nonsense, but I never thought buying her stuff would hurt her feelings, so now I am at a loss for what to do now. Should I text her to let her know they are coming, and how can I word it delicately,? What I think is delicate, she feels is condescending. I actually did text her when I first bought them ( I asked her size and she asked why. I told her I bought some things I thought would look cute on her, but that apparently offended her. She felt I was saying she isn't cute/ doesn't dress cute.) Any advice?