First time poster here so I'm not down with a lot of the acronyms but I'm working it out!!
I'm 31 weeks pregnant with twins and I've come to breaking point with MIL.
BG:
I fell pregnant last May and when we told her he was adamant that her psychic predicted it as she said we would have a baby boy in January 2017... we miscarried a week later, her reaction being that she was disappointed. Not once did she ask how either of us were doing, it was all about her disappointment in losing her grandchild.
We told them with this pregnancy at 12 weeks. She didn't believe me that it was twins, even with the scan photo. She then told me I couldn't be pregnant as there was a box of tampons next to my toilet!
Every time we had a scan she badgered us for ultrasound pictures, and that we needed to make sure we included OH'S grandma so she got one too. Photos were £5 each and it's not just her family we would want to buy them for, so it's easier just to get them for us and email them to everyone, which wasn't good enough.
She comes around my house uninvited, then moans that we haven't made her lunch, even though we never knew she was coming over. Physically raiding my cupboards to find food! It's gotten to the point where if the phone rings or there's a knock at the door I get really anxious that it's her.
Every time she sees me she mentions how big I am (duh, twins) and how she only ever put on a few pounds with all of her pregnancies. It's always about weight and size with her.
They have helped us a lot with getting things ready for the babies, but it always ends up like she's making it a competition with my parents.
Anyway, present day. I feel bad for getting upset but she has driven me so crazy over the last few months that it has pushed me to the edge. She rang OH yesterday saying she "might" come over. She didn't give any indicator of a time (never does) and OH told her that we were both busy so we wouldn't be home. I went out all afternoon, and had a really nice relaxing day. I got home and literally as I pulled up outside my house, their car pulled up in front of mine! To me that is far too close to be a coincidence, they had obviously been waiting as she said "yeah we just saw you drive past where we were parked" when I commented on the timing! Honestly I sat in my dining room when they left and cried for an hour. When OH got home I told him exactly how I felt and that his mum is causing me a lot of stress and anxiety and if she pulls this crap when the twins arrive I will be calling her out on it. I probably sound like an ungrateful bitch but I genuinely feel like she won't leave me be.
I know she's excited, but so are my family but they give us space and privacy!
I'm 31 weeks pregnant with twins and I've come to breaking point with MIL.
BG:
I fell pregnant last May and when we told her he was adamant that her psychic predicted it as she said we would have a baby boy in January 2017... we miscarried a week later, her reaction being that she was disappointed. Not once did she ask how either of us were doing, it was all about her disappointment in losing her grandchild.
We told them with this pregnancy at 12 weeks. She didn't believe me that it was twins, even with the scan photo. She then told me I couldn't be pregnant as there was a box of tampons next to my toilet!
Every time we had a scan she badgered us for ultrasound pictures, and that we needed to make sure we included OH'S grandma so she got one too. Photos were £5 each and it's not just her family we would want to buy them for, so it's easier just to get them for us and email them to everyone, which wasn't good enough.
She comes around my house uninvited, then moans that we haven't made her lunch, even though we never knew she was coming over. Physically raiding my cupboards to find food! It's gotten to the point where if the phone rings or there's a knock at the door I get really anxious that it's her.
Every time she sees me she mentions how big I am (duh, twins) and how she only ever put on a few pounds with all of her pregnancies. It's always about weight and size with her.
They have helped us a lot with getting things ready for the babies, but it always ends up like she's making it a competition with my parents.
Anyway, present day. I feel bad for getting upset but she has driven me so crazy over the last few months that it has pushed me to the edge. She rang OH yesterday saying she "might" come over. She didn't give any indicator of a time (never does) and OH told her that we were both busy so we wouldn't be home. I went out all afternoon, and had a really nice relaxing day. I got home and literally as I pulled up outside my house, their car pulled up in front of mine! To me that is far too close to be a coincidence, they had obviously been waiting as she said "yeah we just saw you drive past where we were parked" when I commented on the timing! Honestly I sat in my dining room when they left and cried for an hour. When OH got home I told him exactly how I felt and that his mum is causing me a lot of stress and anxiety and if she pulls this crap when the twins arrive I will be calling her out on it. I probably sound like an ungrateful bitch but I genuinely feel like she won't leave me be.
I know she's excited, but so are my family but they give us space and privacy!