Okay so I'm due April 20th, and I'd like to start by giving some background.
Well dh didn't meet his father until 6 years ago. He's 25. By the time he met his father, he remarried and had two other children. These children are sooooooo fucking spoiled. His brother is 20 years old, never had a job, just finished highschool, and literally sits in his room on his game system allllll day. He comes out for food and that's it. This kid is a good 350 pounds easy, and he is very mean and immature. Their daughter is 17, much more Idpendent but also not at the same time. She has a job, but will not spend her own money. She'll tell her mom she wants money for fast food or to go shopping because she's saving her money for Costa Rica. Whatevs . she's the most inconsiderate human I've ever met. their mother enables them both. She literally told me she wants them living there until they are 40. she talks to them in baby voices, gives them whatever, and they have no responsibility whatsoever. They still get Christmas. I'm talking 600 in Victoria secret gift cards for sil and a new game system and 250 in game stop gift cards for bil.
Ff, we lived with them for 4 weeks while waiting for stuff with our house to go through. During this time, my 2 year old was woken up about 10 times a night from bil screaming at his TV at 2 am or running down the hall, things of this nature. He was also really rude. He would blurt out disgusting shit he thought was funny in front of my child. For example, he liked to say "fuck me daddy" alot. He also thought it was funny to teach my two year old to say gay. Ya. He also eats his boogers. Openly. It's gross, and he will do it anywhere. Dinner, the mall, he doesn't care . Well get to that in a second. We bought all our own food while staying there. Some of it was labeled for the baby. Sil would drink all of Ds juice, eat his potty reward cookies, eat half a bag of our chips and leave it open and out. She ate all my pickles after I told her to save me some because well I bought them. She opened my chip dip, ate the entire container, and then put it back in the fridge. I could go on and on. 4 weeks felt like 4 years. Let's move on to smil. She treats dh like he ruined her family unit or something,...we started talking about it one day, and she told me she didn't really want dh to meet his dad because she didn't know how it would make the babies feel knowing they weren't the first. .are you fucking kidding me???? Fil works. A lot. I actually really like him and feel bad for him. His wife literally does nothing. She doesn't work, she isn't t disabled, she just sleeps til noon and spends a shit ton of money, and babies the kids. She will fight with him for telling them to do chores. He eventually gives up. And he freaks for the house being dirty and the money getting blown. Smil asked bil to take out the trash and he said, "no mommy. Do it yourself." She replies okay baby, and wakes up my dh who just got home from a 12 hr shift and tells him to take out the trash. Grrrrrrr!!!!
Anyways this post has gotten pretty long, but I'm getting to the gist I swear. Mil, and sfil are wonderful. I love them. They are so helpful and they don't over step. They're so so amazing. They've accepted my son as one of their own, and they have a 5 yr old son who my son adores. Mil threw me a baby shower, and my aunt asked mil if this was her first grandchild, and she said no, Jovani is. (My firstborn) I almost cried. Until fil and smil arrive with bil, who walks up to me to let me know I look trashy and my sash is stupid. Ha.
Well let's talk about delivery day. 3 months ago, I wasn't going to let anyone come to the hospital. When I told smil, she responded with well I have to let blah blah blah I don't have a choice. I responded with, unless all those people are pushing this baby out I sure do have a choice . I say no. This isn't my first rodeo, and I want to rest. On top of that, last time, everyone wanted to hold the baby. And that wasnt going to happen. Lookie dont touchie.Well, plans have changed. Mil is going to be taking Ds when I go into labor, and she'll be bringing him to meet his brother at the hospital along with the sil I like and probably 5 yr old bil. I know this is going to cause problems with smil, but I don't really care. I just don't want to cause stress for dh. I told him I'd be open to letting fil and smil come to the hospital, but I'll be telling her that bil and sil are not invited. He said it will cause unspoken animosity, if me denying her the baby doesn't.. He doesn't want to tell them at all. I know pictures will be posted and someone will see, I guess I'm trying to figure my preemptive measures..gah. Idk if this is a rant or what, I'm just stressing and the thought of my delivery being ruined by entitled assholes infuriates me. I guess I'm wondering how to go about it with causing the least amount of kaos .
Well dh didn't meet his father until 6 years ago. He's 25. By the time he met his father, he remarried and had two other children. These children are sooooooo fucking spoiled. His brother is 20 years old, never had a job, just finished highschool, and literally sits in his room on his game system allllll day. He comes out for food and that's it. This kid is a good 350 pounds easy, and he is very mean and immature. Their daughter is 17, much more Idpendent but also not at the same time. She has a job, but will not spend her own money. She'll tell her mom she wants money for fast food or to go shopping because she's saving her money for Costa Rica. Whatevs . she's the most inconsiderate human I've ever met. their mother enables them both. She literally told me she wants them living there until they are 40. she talks to them in baby voices, gives them whatever, and they have no responsibility whatsoever. They still get Christmas. I'm talking 600 in Victoria secret gift cards for sil and a new game system and 250 in game stop gift cards for bil.
Ff, we lived with them for 4 weeks while waiting for stuff with our house to go through. During this time, my 2 year old was woken up about 10 times a night from bil screaming at his TV at 2 am or running down the hall, things of this nature. He was also really rude. He would blurt out disgusting shit he thought was funny in front of my child. For example, he liked to say "fuck me daddy" alot. He also thought it was funny to teach my two year old to say gay. Ya. He also eats his boogers. Openly. It's gross, and he will do it anywhere. Dinner, the mall, he doesn't care . Well get to that in a second. We bought all our own food while staying there. Some of it was labeled for the baby. Sil would drink all of Ds juice, eat his potty reward cookies, eat half a bag of our chips and leave it open and out. She ate all my pickles after I told her to save me some because well I bought them. She opened my chip dip, ate the entire container, and then put it back in the fridge. I could go on and on. 4 weeks felt like 4 years. Let's move on to smil. She treats dh like he ruined her family unit or something,...we started talking about it one day, and she told me she didn't really want dh to meet his dad because she didn't know how it would make the babies feel knowing they weren't the first. .are you fucking kidding me???? Fil works. A lot. I actually really like him and feel bad for him. His wife literally does nothing. She doesn't work, she isn't t disabled, she just sleeps til noon and spends a shit ton of money, and babies the kids. She will fight with him for telling them to do chores. He eventually gives up. And he freaks for the house being dirty and the money getting blown. Smil asked bil to take out the trash and he said, "no mommy. Do it yourself." She replies okay baby, and wakes up my dh who just got home from a 12 hr shift and tells him to take out the trash. Grrrrrrr!!!!
Anyways this post has gotten pretty long, but I'm getting to the gist I swear. Mil, and sfil are wonderful. I love them. They are so helpful and they don't over step. They're so so amazing. They've accepted my son as one of their own, and they have a 5 yr old son who my son adores. Mil threw me a baby shower, and my aunt asked mil if this was her first grandchild, and she said no, Jovani is. (My firstborn) I almost cried. Until fil and smil arrive with bil, who walks up to me to let me know I look trashy and my sash is stupid. Ha.
Well let's talk about delivery day. 3 months ago, I wasn't going to let anyone come to the hospital. When I told smil, she responded with well I have to let blah blah blah I don't have a choice. I responded with, unless all those people are pushing this baby out I sure do have a choice . I say no. This isn't my first rodeo, and I want to rest. On top of that, last time, everyone wanted to hold the baby. And that wasnt going to happen. Lookie dont touchie.Well, plans have changed. Mil is going to be taking Ds when I go into labor, and she'll be bringing him to meet his brother at the hospital along with the sil I like and probably 5 yr old bil. I know this is going to cause problems with smil, but I don't really care. I just don't want to cause stress for dh. I told him I'd be open to letting fil and smil come to the hospital, but I'll be telling her that bil and sil are not invited. He said it will cause unspoken animosity, if me denying her the baby doesn't.. He doesn't want to tell them at all. I know pictures will be posted and someone will see, I guess I'm trying to figure my preemptive measures..gah. Idk if this is a rant or what, I'm just stressing and the thought of my delivery being ruined by entitled assholes infuriates me. I guess I'm wondering how to go about it with causing the least amount of kaos .