This is going to be a long winded rant, and I want to apologise in advance for any spelling and grammar mistakes. My iPhone has a mind of its own. 😂
It all started with my mil back when my son was one day old. I was still in hospital because I had a csection. Mil came up to visit and when her son had left the room to go down and get his brother (hospital only allows two visitors at a time) she said "be thankful he didn't come out your fanny" in Ireland fanny means vagina. I was mortified in a ward full of women I didn't even know what to say. She then said sure a csection is easy you won't have after birth pain etc. Hello woman I still gave birth and I still have pain and my womb still has to shrink back to its original size for Christs sake!! Anyways I let it slide because she's uneducated. My csection was planned and she didn't believe the doctors were going to deliver my baby that day so she didn't even answer her phone to her son when he tried to ring her.
Anyways that was the start of it. About two weeks after my lo was born I walked down town and went into the shop where she works (small town with only one grocery store) she looked in the pram rubbed my lo face and said "he'll change" well she's getting her wish because our lo has been diagnosed with saggital craniosynostosis. To me my son is perfect and his cranio makes him who he is. Yes it needs to operated on to prevent future problems and yes it's hard for us but don't tell me you want him to change!!!
Since our lo has arrived she just arrives up no phonecall to ask if were available no notice just when it suits her. To me that's rudeness! She arrived one Saturday when we took the kids up to the mountains to play in the snow. We were just home in the door and getting baby fed getting my daughter something to eat and we wanted a cup of tea to warm up. She walks in and comments on the state of the house. Now I'm a clean freak but on this particular day we literally got up got the kids ready and went out for the day so there was still pjs breakfast stuff etc in the sitting room. But don't you dare comment on my house.
She keeps pressuring us for a christening because our lo needs an op and well to put it in her words "you know just incase" basically implying what if he dies? I'm sorry but my baby has committed no sins what bull Catholic crap you spewing ain't going to work. Yes we want our son christened but we are in no hurry and the op is pretty soon so the last thing we want is too try organise that on top of everything.
In relation to the op, we met with the consultant two weeks ago and we knew before handed he needed the op but we weren't sure of exactly when. He told us no later that four and a half months so that puts the op around late April early May! That's pretty fecking soon. Of course mil rings to find out what docs said and wants to know is it even successful. Like no understanding as to why he needs it she just sees at as something that we're doing for the sake of it!
Anyways that's just some of the crap I've put up with there's a hell of a lot more. I just don't know how to deal with this woman. I'm going through my own stuff I was diagnosed with postnatal depression, my tiny lil baby needs major skull surgery, i have crap going on with my own father since I was 5 months pregnant and I just don't need this negative a-hole thinking she can say and do what she wants.
Thanks for letting me vent! I hope you guys have some tips on how to deal with her. I did post this on my birth club because I didn't realise this group was here. Just if you come across it. There's also a lot more too add. It could be a 40 page essay.
Xxx
It all started with my mil back when my son was one day old. I was still in hospital because I had a csection. Mil came up to visit and when her son had left the room to go down and get his brother (hospital only allows two visitors at a time) she said "be thankful he didn't come out your fanny" in Ireland fanny means vagina. I was mortified in a ward full of women I didn't even know what to say. She then said sure a csection is easy you won't have after birth pain etc. Hello woman I still gave birth and I still have pain and my womb still has to shrink back to its original size for Christs sake!! Anyways I let it slide because she's uneducated. My csection was planned and she didn't believe the doctors were going to deliver my baby that day so she didn't even answer her phone to her son when he tried to ring her.
Anyways that was the start of it. About two weeks after my lo was born I walked down town and went into the shop where she works (small town with only one grocery store) she looked in the pram rubbed my lo face and said "he'll change" well she's getting her wish because our lo has been diagnosed with saggital craniosynostosis. To me my son is perfect and his cranio makes him who he is. Yes it needs to operated on to prevent future problems and yes it's hard for us but don't tell me you want him to change!!!
Since our lo has arrived she just arrives up no phonecall to ask if were available no notice just when it suits her. To me that's rudeness! She arrived one Saturday when we took the kids up to the mountains to play in the snow. We were just home in the door and getting baby fed getting my daughter something to eat and we wanted a cup of tea to warm up. She walks in and comments on the state of the house. Now I'm a clean freak but on this particular day we literally got up got the kids ready and went out for the day so there was still pjs breakfast stuff etc in the sitting room. But don't you dare comment on my house.
She keeps pressuring us for a christening because our lo needs an op and well to put it in her words "you know just incase" basically implying what if he dies? I'm sorry but my baby has committed no sins what bull Catholic crap you spewing ain't going to work. Yes we want our son christened but we are in no hurry and the op is pretty soon so the last thing we want is too try organise that on top of everything.
In relation to the op, we met with the consultant two weeks ago and we knew before handed he needed the op but we weren't sure of exactly when. He told us no later that four and a half months so that puts the op around late April early May! That's pretty fecking soon. Of course mil rings to find out what docs said and wants to know is it even successful. Like no understanding as to why he needs it she just sees at as something that we're doing for the sake of it!
Anyways that's just some of the crap I've put up with there's a hell of a lot more. I just don't know how to deal with this woman. I'm going through my own stuff I was diagnosed with postnatal depression, my tiny lil baby needs major skull surgery, i have crap going on with my own father since I was 5 months pregnant and I just don't need this negative a-hole thinking she can say and do what she wants.
Thanks for letting me vent! I hope you guys have some tips on how to deal with her. I did post this on my birth club because I didn't realise this group was here. Just if you come across it. There's also a lot more too add. It could be a 40 page essay.
Xxx