Hi,
I have background but I'm on my phone.
Current issue: my grandmother had lung cancer over 10 years ago, and she recently found out it came back. This is the grandma who didn't skip my wedding. She started chemo today. She wants the family to get together for Easter, she kinda guilt tripped about it but said its up to me and I don't have to go, or tell her if I'm going or why or anything.
I was talking to my aunt about how I feel guilty not going to Easter, but that I don't want everything to get swept under the rug, or have everyone think everything is fine now. And then my aunt started in on this "boundaries aren't healthy! life isn't about boundaries! you either have a relationship with these people or you don't, not boundaries!! what's more important?! LOVE or BOUNDARIES???"
She has also been screwed over by the family similar to how I was, as soon as I had problems with them she got welcomed back in with open arms. Now she shits glitter and eats rainbows. I don't know if I have a question, I'm pretty sure the DWIL answer is not to go, and I don't think I could put myself through going anyways..
I have background but I'm on my phone.
Current issue: my grandmother had lung cancer over 10 years ago, and she recently found out it came back. This is the grandma who didn't skip my wedding. She started chemo today. She wants the family to get together for Easter, she kinda guilt tripped about it but said its up to me and I don't have to go, or tell her if I'm going or why or anything.
I was talking to my aunt about how I feel guilty not going to Easter, but that I don't want everything to get swept under the rug, or have everyone think everything is fine now. And then my aunt started in on this "boundaries aren't healthy! life isn't about boundaries! you either have a relationship with these people or you don't, not boundaries!! what's more important?! LOVE or BOUNDARIES???"
She has also been screwed over by the family similar to how I was, as soon as I had problems with them she got welcomed back in with open arms. Now she shits glitter and eats rainbows. I don't know if I have a question, I'm pretty sure the DWIL answer is not to go, and I don't think I could put myself through going anyways..