Here's my sad "MIL inflicting pain after CO" story. If anyone out there has an idea of how I can help my DH through this, let me know.
BG: MIL has two kids: DH and SIL. When DH was 10 and SIL was 17, MIL cleaned their house out while they were at school and left them to move in with her heroin dealer. She never came back. SIL moved in with her then boyfriend, and DH was raised by his step father, who adopted him later.
She would call DH and tell him she was coming to pick him up, so he would go outside and wait for her for hours. She never showed up. Years later, when DH was an adult, she came back and asked for forgiveness. He forgave her, but didn't really have a relationship with her.
This is where I come in. I was a DuW at this point. It was pre DWIL, and not to worry, I got my ass handed to me when I first posted years ago. I fucked up and told DH he should try harder with her when we got pregnant. My unicorn was pregnant with twins right along with me, apparently.
To make a long story short, it took 2 weeks after birth to CO the nutty bitch. She lasted only two weeks after birth because she's an evil, hateful, addict who works no program and uses legally prescribed narcotics incorrectly but claims to be sober. She's awful. We did not send a letter. We just didn't answer her calls for a week, and she gave up.
So, today is DH'S birthday. It's a big one, too. The kids and I made cards and cupcakes, and he got to go on a men's weekend trip last weekend. But, MIL never text or called her own child on his Bday. Keep in mind that we never sent a CO letter. She faded away easier than any MIL I've ever seen.
I get it. I feel grateful that she didn't text. I hate her. But, it still hurts my DH. It's not just the lack of happy birthday. His birthday reminds him every year that she never loved him. She cares more about drugs than her own son. SIL and she are very close, but SIL uses her same drug of choice. SIL moved in with her and the dealer a year after MIL left.
I don't know what to tell him. I don't want to be insensitive, but I hate her and am so glad she faded out so quickly. Easiest CO ever. She doesn't care about my kids. I don't have to fight her. But, how awful to know your mom doesn't even remember your birthday.
BG: MIL has two kids: DH and SIL. When DH was 10 and SIL was 17, MIL cleaned their house out while they were at school and left them to move in with her heroin dealer. She never came back. SIL moved in with her then boyfriend, and DH was raised by his step father, who adopted him later.
She would call DH and tell him she was coming to pick him up, so he would go outside and wait for her for hours. She never showed up. Years later, when DH was an adult, she came back and asked for forgiveness. He forgave her, but didn't really have a relationship with her.
This is where I come in. I was a DuW at this point. It was pre DWIL, and not to worry, I got my ass handed to me when I first posted years ago. I fucked up and told DH he should try harder with her when we got pregnant. My unicorn was pregnant with twins right along with me, apparently.
To make a long story short, it took 2 weeks after birth to CO the nutty bitch. She lasted only two weeks after birth because she's an evil, hateful, addict who works no program and uses legally prescribed narcotics incorrectly but claims to be sober. She's awful. We did not send a letter. We just didn't answer her calls for a week, and she gave up.
So, today is DH'S birthday. It's a big one, too. The kids and I made cards and cupcakes, and he got to go on a men's weekend trip last weekend. But, MIL never text or called her own child on his Bday. Keep in mind that we never sent a CO letter. She faded away easier than any MIL I've ever seen.
I get it. I feel grateful that she didn't text. I hate her. But, it still hurts my DH. It's not just the lack of happy birthday. His birthday reminds him every year that she never loved him. She cares more about drugs than her own son. SIL and she are very close, but SIL uses her same drug of choice. SIL moved in with her and the dealer a year after MIL left.
I don't know what to tell him. I don't want to be insensitive, but I hate her and am so glad she faded out so quickly. Easiest CO ever. She doesn't care about my kids. I don't have to fight her. But, how awful to know your mom doesn't even remember your birthday.
