My MIL can be a hard pill to swallow.very pushy , critical and says anything and everything she feels. She hates when people act awkward, hates it if I don't serve my DH, not well dressed with makeup on , and she watches my every move.
But this is our main issue....
SO went over the other day for a visit and told me how his mom is getting very excited about the baby ,which I am happy and blessed to have as many people love my child but there are boundaries! Which I need help trying to set for such a pushy person.
She told Dh that she will buy the crib and the bedding for it , he told her its okay she didn't have to but said " It's not for you so I get what I want." Don't get me wrong , I appreciate the gesture but I feel uncomfortable with gifts because of how I grew up. She has bought a lot of clothes , blankets ,and picked out the homecoming outfit already as well. I just feel like the more she gets the more she will feel she can take over.
She says other things that have bothered me as well like how she is annoyed that I don't invite her over more often to cook for her and she said to my DH that "IF it's yours than it will definitely be cute". That really offended me , we been together for two years!
Than he told her I may have a C/S which she gets pleased about because she thinks she will be staying with us for two weeks to care for my baby! He told her that it won't be nessecary because he will have paternity leave but she just gave him a look like "yeah right" and told him how she is going to be a very active grandma , she will come over as much as possible or we will be over there. Either way she is going to be around a lot . and that he can't tell her what to.do because it's her grand baby.
When I went over my DH placed his hand on my tummy when he kissed my check and she swats him away saying "don't hit her tummy!!" Yet she can touch my stomach!?
She has wanted to.go to my Dr and ultrasound appointments but I don't tell her when they are. I'll probably set up a 3D one for her to go to but its just if I do a little she pushes for more.
I don't want to have problems with her, I love her but I know what to do with my kids and family.
I feel like we should start setting some sort of boundaries now or else it will be worst once the baby comes.
My one problem is that my Spanish isn't very good yet. She only speaks Spanish and I'm getting better at it but not that great to have a full blown conversation.
Do you think I'm being ungrateful? I don't have family that's super active in my life so I'm not used to having someone who always wants to be around.
But this is our main issue....
SO went over the other day for a visit and told me how his mom is getting very excited about the baby ,which I am happy and blessed to have as many people love my child but there are boundaries! Which I need help trying to set for such a pushy person.
She told Dh that she will buy the crib and the bedding for it , he told her its okay she didn't have to but said " It's not for you so I get what I want." Don't get me wrong , I appreciate the gesture but I feel uncomfortable with gifts because of how I grew up. She has bought a lot of clothes , blankets ,and picked out the homecoming outfit already as well. I just feel like the more she gets the more she will feel she can take over.
She says other things that have bothered me as well like how she is annoyed that I don't invite her over more often to cook for her and she said to my DH that "IF it's yours than it will definitely be cute". That really offended me , we been together for two years!
Than he told her I may have a C/S which she gets pleased about because she thinks she will be staying with us for two weeks to care for my baby! He told her that it won't be nessecary because he will have paternity leave but she just gave him a look like "yeah right" and told him how she is going to be a very active grandma , she will come over as much as possible or we will be over there. Either way she is going to be around a lot . and that he can't tell her what to.do because it's her grand baby.
When I went over my DH placed his hand on my tummy when he kissed my check and she swats him away saying "don't hit her tummy!!" Yet she can touch my stomach!?
She has wanted to.go to my Dr and ultrasound appointments but I don't tell her when they are. I'll probably set up a 3D one for her to go to but its just if I do a little she pushes for more.
I don't want to have problems with her, I love her but I know what to do with my kids and family.
I feel like we should start setting some sort of boundaries now or else it will be worst once the baby comes.
My one problem is that my Spanish isn't very good yet. She only speaks Spanish and I'm getting better at it but not that great to have a full blown conversation.
Do you think I'm being ungrateful? I don't have family that's super active in my life so I'm not used to having someone who always wants to be around.