Ok. So this is going to be long. I am about to be twenty four. I am married. I own a home. I work a full time job. And I am pregnant with our first baby. My mother has some mental issues. I've only seen her about two times since Christmas (my decision) because everyone I see her it ends badly and we rarely talk because every time we do she gets verbally abusive, which she has a long, illustrious history of being.
Ever since I got pregnant she's been saying that she is going to take my baby away...blahblahblah. how I'm a pos and a whore and I don't deserve this baby....only ever been with Dh. She kicked me out of the house when I was seventeen because she had one of her episodes and I moved in the Dh..who was just boyfriend at the time.
She is highly unstable and mean and hateful and manipulative and selfish.
All that being said, I didn't want to do a gender reveal party..because I knew she would make it all about her and find every way possible to take the moment away from us....just like she did at our wedding...like I said, illustrious. Well, Dh talked me into it so I agreed on a dinner at a restaurant. Already have everything planned.
Well she had been telling me that she's not coming because I don't come over everyday and spend time with the family or go to my brothers special needs activities.
Again, I am married with a full time job. And I live about thirty minutes away...it's not like she is right around the corner.
She's mad because my life is about something other than her.
This keeps happening. She's stressing me cut. Cussing at me. Just being irate. She's out of hand.
I don't know how to handle this situation. I tried not talking to her and she guilt trips me.
My baby doesn't deserve this.
Every time I try to talk to her she turns it around on me and my father agrees with her. He shelters her and tries to keep her from getting upset, even when she is wrong.
I guess I'm just upset because I don't know any of my grandparents but I feel like my baby would be better off without her. And that kills me because I want her to be normal so I can do things and include her in ways I'm supposed to.
Opinions?
Advice?
Right now I just want to block her out completely.
Ever since I got pregnant she's been saying that she is going to take my baby away...blahblahblah. how I'm a pos and a whore and I don't deserve this baby....only ever been with Dh. She kicked me out of the house when I was seventeen because she had one of her episodes and I moved in the Dh..who was just boyfriend at the time.
She is highly unstable and mean and hateful and manipulative and selfish.
All that being said, I didn't want to do a gender reveal party..because I knew she would make it all about her and find every way possible to take the moment away from us....just like she did at our wedding...like I said, illustrious. Well, Dh talked me into it so I agreed on a dinner at a restaurant. Already have everything planned.
Well she had been telling me that she's not coming because I don't come over everyday and spend time with the family or go to my brothers special needs activities.
Again, I am married with a full time job. And I live about thirty minutes away...it's not like she is right around the corner.
She's mad because my life is about something other than her.
This keeps happening. She's stressing me cut. Cussing at me. Just being irate. She's out of hand.
I don't know how to handle this situation. I tried not talking to her and she guilt trips me.
My baby doesn't deserve this.
Every time I try to talk to her she turns it around on me and my father agrees with her. He shelters her and tries to keep her from getting upset, even when she is wrong.
I guess I'm just upset because I don't know any of my grandparents but I feel like my baby would be better off without her. And that kills me because I want her to be normal so I can do things and include her in ways I'm supposed to.
Opinions?
Advice?
Right now I just want to block her out completely.