I posted this on another board but it's not as active as this board.
I CO my parents and brother in January for a ton of reasons. My mother is an alcoholic and is emotionally abusive. My father is an enabler and also somewhat abusive. My brother is an alcoholic and addicted to pills. All of them smoke and found it ridiculous that I didn't want my daughter in their house just because they smoked.
We told them we wanted an ITO. They would call and text and message on the debil at various times. All of them we just BH. My DH answered texts here and there depending on what they were saying. DH and I blocked them on the debil, blocked one of the phone numbers.
My dad showed up at our house one day earlier this month. I was the only one home and I didn't know it was him or else I wouldn't have answered it. DD was in one of the back bedrooms and didn't come out. He basically said he just wanted to see if I was still alive and that they had a birthday card for me at the house (my birthday was in March). Asked if we were ever going to talk to them again. I told him that I definitely wouldn't talk to my mom again. He basically just said okay and then he left.
I received a text message from him yesterday that said "Hi, how are you? I just want to say I'm sorry for anything I've done to cause this rift between us. I hope we can find some way to resolve this. We miss you guys. I hope you will respond. Love you guys! Love Mom & Dad." I didn't respond. DH told me I shouldn't. He is very against trying to resolve this as well. I know he has good reasons and I'm just struggling to see them and moving on.
I'm starting to miss some things about them and I know the bad outweighs the good every day of the week. I just think that that after this TO they may act differently knowing the consequences of their actions. I also feel like I have much more control of our relationship. Am I absolutely crazy? Do I just need to continue to move on?
(After re-reading this. I am absolutely crazy. Any advice for getting over these feelings?)
Another problem I currently have is that my cousin's having a Quincenera rather than a Sweet 16 party. I know my parents are invited and to my Aunt and cousin this party is a big deal. My Aunt does know that we aren't talking to my parents. I don't really want to go if my parents are going and if I try to explain that to my Aunt I know it won't go over well. Do we go and just avoid them? I know that around 100+ people are invited. Or just say we won't be attending and deal with any repercussion from my aunt?
