Ladies, hoping for your advice here.
Ever since I was a kid, we've always done holidays as a big family event...usually at my grandparents' house. No matter what, my mom expects us to be there every single celebration.
Mom has always been one to tell me what I'm "supposed" to do, and either gets mad when I don't or tries guilting me into doing things her way. Since I've had kids, it's harder to make the almost 2-hour drive to my grandparents (and they don't drive that far anymore), so we see them much less often. She says things like "your grandpa is {age}, so he might not be around much longer!"
I am now pregnant again, and I've had some bleeding on and off so doc put me on pelvic rest and said to limit my activity. It's too early for me (8 weeks) to be comfortable sharing this info with the family, so I've been staying at home. But there's a celebration this weekend AND next (mothers day) at my grandparents, and I'm uncomfortable going because of the bleeding. If I go I'll be expected to be on my feet most of the day, working in the kitchen and taking care of the table. No way I'm gonna be able to put my feet up without being called out by my mom.
SO, how do I get out of going without telling everyone my business? And with as little drama from my mom as possible?
Ever since I was a kid, we've always done holidays as a big family event...usually at my grandparents' house. No matter what, my mom expects us to be there every single celebration.
Mom has always been one to tell me what I'm "supposed" to do, and either gets mad when I don't or tries guilting me into doing things her way. Since I've had kids, it's harder to make the almost 2-hour drive to my grandparents (and they don't drive that far anymore), so we see them much less often. She says things like "your grandpa is {age}, so he might not be around much longer!"
I am now pregnant again, and I've had some bleeding on and off so doc put me on pelvic rest and said to limit my activity. It's too early for me (8 weeks) to be comfortable sharing this info with the family, so I've been staying at home. But there's a celebration this weekend AND next (mothers day) at my grandparents, and I'm uncomfortable going because of the bleeding. If I go I'll be expected to be on my feet most of the day, working in the kitchen and taking care of the table. No way I'm gonna be able to put my feet up without being called out by my mom.
SO, how do I get out of going without telling everyone my business? And with as little drama from my mom as possible?
