I'm so stressed and would love some advice. I have BG on here. http://community.babycenter.com/post/a61599811/just-another-controlling-mother...udfm-p212223?cpg=30
The other day I stupidly told my aunt we had a funeral this weekend for my DH's grandparent. Stupid me. She was a FM as I should have known, and immediately told my parents. Lesson learned about the aunt of course. But my parents who have been on TO since Feb did research and showed up at the cemetery. They waited til I got the kids in the car and my DH was paying his final respects and my dad got out of their car where they'd been parked down a little ways and he ambushed me. The keys to our car were with my DH so I couldn't drive away. My choices were to walk down the path to meet him away from the car where the kids were, or get into our car and sit there ignoring him with the kids looking on. So I walked to him. He hugged me and was crying and saying it had been 11 weeks and they were counting every day since I stopped talking to them and how they thought they'd lost me.. yadda yadda. I told him I needed space from them, like I told them when I put them in TO. He hugged me as he said, sure you have things to figure out but why do you need to crap on us at the same time? I'm 34 weeks pregnant. What an ass. Then he asked me to let my mom (who was waiting in the car still) see my kids. I backed away and said I would talk to my DH. We sat in our car trying to figure out what to do. We should have driven away. Again stupidly I went to their car and talked to my mom but said no to letting her see the kids. She asked to visit us this summer. I said no but maybe in fall. She tried to give me 3 boxes of baby clothes, I said no. I also said I was planning to get back in touch with them when I was ready which I had told them months ago as well. I am so ashamed I never told them how unacceptable it was to corner me at a funeral. I have read toxic parents, emotional manipulation and the nice girl syndrome and I see a therapist weekly (we were working on what my boundaries were going to be). But now they've shown me they are not trainable. And I've shown myself that I still can't stand up to them in person. I am so upset with myself and them. What would you do?
The other day I stupidly told my aunt we had a funeral this weekend for my DH's grandparent. Stupid me. She was a FM as I should have known, and immediately told my parents. Lesson learned about the aunt of course. But my parents who have been on TO since Feb did research and showed up at the cemetery. They waited til I got the kids in the car and my DH was paying his final respects and my dad got out of their car where they'd been parked down a little ways and he ambushed me. The keys to our car were with my DH so I couldn't drive away. My choices were to walk down the path to meet him away from the car where the kids were, or get into our car and sit there ignoring him with the kids looking on. So I walked to him. He hugged me and was crying and saying it had been 11 weeks and they were counting every day since I stopped talking to them and how they thought they'd lost me.. yadda yadda. I told him I needed space from them, like I told them when I put them in TO. He hugged me as he said, sure you have things to figure out but why do you need to crap on us at the same time? I'm 34 weeks pregnant. What an ass. Then he asked me to let my mom (who was waiting in the car still) see my kids. I backed away and said I would talk to my DH. We sat in our car trying to figure out what to do. We should have driven away. Again stupidly I went to their car and talked to my mom but said no to letting her see the kids. She asked to visit us this summer. I said no but maybe in fall. She tried to give me 3 boxes of baby clothes, I said no. I also said I was planning to get back in touch with them when I was ready which I had told them months ago as well. I am so ashamed I never told them how unacceptable it was to corner me at a funeral. I have read toxic parents, emotional manipulation and the nice girl syndrome and I see a therapist weekly (we were working on what my boundaries were going to be). But now they've shown me they are not trainable. And I've shown myself that I still can't stand up to them in person. I am so upset with myself and them. What would you do?