My little sister is 21 and recently fell on some "hard times" due to her reckless decisions.
She lives twelve hours away from me and six hours away from our parents. Up until recently I thought she was doing well living on her own.
In January she flunked out of college. She lost her full ride scholarship. She owes the school $700 before she can reapply or receive her transcripts. Additionally, she took out unnecessary student loans and she is quickly approaching the end of the "grace period".
So, during the two years she has lived on her own she has lived in five different houses with five different groups of college students. During each move she would explain that "so and so" is graduating, getting married, etc.
Recently that I realized the reason for her frequent moves is because has failed to pay rent, contribute to the household, and/or caused frequent arguments among the roommates.
Since flunking out of school she has been working part time at McDonald's. She has been living with a group of friends from work.
This morning I get a text stating that she hates living there and has decided that once her lease is up she wants to move to FL to be near me and the kids. I was excited and offered to help her find a job, house, etc.
She then states that she was hoping to stay with us for a while until she found all those things because he lease is up mid June.
Now I am wondering if she is being kicked out again because she has always loved where she lived and hated Florida.
I feel that I should atleast help her, but I'm not sure how to handle the situation. She is the type of person that will take advantage of anyone and anything. I'm the only real option. We don't have a relationship with our father. Our mother is currently living in the house of her In-laws where she has lived for the past 5 years rent free (now you know where my sister learned her behavior haha)
I'm her only family. I want to help her get her life together, but I refuse to let her become a mooch like our mother.
Should I let her move in? If so, what type of rules (if any) should I enforce?
Should there be an expiration date?
If I don't let her move in, how would you address that scenario?
Sorry for the grammatical errors and extremely long post. I'm so lost right now.
Thanks!
She lives twelve hours away from me and six hours away from our parents. Up until recently I thought she was doing well living on her own.
In January she flunked out of college. She lost her full ride scholarship. She owes the school $700 before she can reapply or receive her transcripts. Additionally, she took out unnecessary student loans and she is quickly approaching the end of the "grace period".
So, during the two years she has lived on her own she has lived in five different houses with five different groups of college students. During each move she would explain that "so and so" is graduating, getting married, etc.
Recently that I realized the reason for her frequent moves is because has failed to pay rent, contribute to the household, and/or caused frequent arguments among the roommates.
Since flunking out of school she has been working part time at McDonald's. She has been living with a group of friends from work.
This morning I get a text stating that she hates living there and has decided that once her lease is up she wants to move to FL to be near me and the kids. I was excited and offered to help her find a job, house, etc.
She then states that she was hoping to stay with us for a while until she found all those things because he lease is up mid June.
Now I am wondering if she is being kicked out again because she has always loved where she lived and hated Florida.
I feel that I should atleast help her, but I'm not sure how to handle the situation. She is the type of person that will take advantage of anyone and anything. I'm the only real option. We don't have a relationship with our father. Our mother is currently living in the house of her In-laws where she has lived for the past 5 years rent free (now you know where my sister learned her behavior haha)
I'm her only family. I want to help her get her life together, but I refuse to let her become a mooch like our mother.
Should I let her move in? If so, what type of rules (if any) should I enforce?
Should there be an expiration date?
If I don't let her move in, how would you address that scenario?
Sorry for the grammatical errors and extremely long post. I'm so lost right now.
Thanks!