IL's are awful, they were TO for a month or two and SO had talked to them and explained a lot of the things that we didn't like and our boundaries, visits were slowed down and not so entitled, and I felt better about ILs. We met them at a park once since that, MIL handed us a card that was basically like "if you don't let us babysit then your marriage will fail, also OP if you want to bring LO over when SO is at work, you're more than welcome!" which pissed me off but we BH and hoped that we could continue the nicer relationship we had been having with them.
I use facebook as a tool to notify multiple people of things; for instance, SO and I's engagement was posted on facebook (I actually texted IL's from SO's phone first as well as my mom who doesn't have facebook). MIL always throws a fit a week or so later and pretends she never saw it and never knew and nobody told her. My LO will be having surgery in a month or so and I had posted this update on facebook a week ago because that's what I do. I did text my mom to let her know because the surgery is the day before her birthday and we will be 1.5hrs away in the hospital on her birthday so I won't be able to do anything with her. If SO wanted to personally inform her then he could have; he didn't ask me to and he didn't. I wouldn't myself.
ILs apparently think they need to be present for every test and surgery that LO has and so every time we see them they ask about the doctor and then attempt to invite themselves to his next appts and get shut down. So naturally, MIL commented saying "we will help". I replied with "nothing we need help with" because I'm fairly sure she's not a pediatric surgeon and I'm capable of holding and comforting my own post-op one year old. She texts SO with a ton of guilt tripping "we're your family, we wanna help, i'm so sad because you didn't inform me personally and OP posted on facebook, it's our right to be there, why don't you love us anymore, let me know so i don't get attached to LO" BS and I blocked MIL and FIL on facebook and any other social media because I'm officially done with them and if finding information out on facebook is such an issue then she won't find information out at all, she won't have to get attached to my LO, and she "won't see LO until he's 18" as she likes to say (or never). There's plenty of other issues but this was the IL's last chance from me to shape up, and this proved to me that they still have absolutely no boundaries and aren't willing to respect us as parents and adults.
So his mom has been texting him things like "Please rate your childhood on a scale of 1-10" or "Please describe in detail a memory of you and your grandpa between the ages of 1-10" once a day. He took read receipts off and stopped replying.
Today his dad texted him (picture follows) and he sent me the screenshot immediately. What should he do about this? How do I help comfort him when I feel that ILs are awful and am almost glad to read this text?
I'd also like to add that MIL is referred to as mum - she's American. But she's an eccentric special snowflake. We're all American.
I use facebook as a tool to notify multiple people of things; for instance, SO and I's engagement was posted on facebook (I actually texted IL's from SO's phone first as well as my mom who doesn't have facebook). MIL always throws a fit a week or so later and pretends she never saw it and never knew and nobody told her. My LO will be having surgery in a month or so and I had posted this update on facebook a week ago because that's what I do. I did text my mom to let her know because the surgery is the day before her birthday and we will be 1.5hrs away in the hospital on her birthday so I won't be able to do anything with her. If SO wanted to personally inform her then he could have; he didn't ask me to and he didn't. I wouldn't myself.
ILs apparently think they need to be present for every test and surgery that LO has and so every time we see them they ask about the doctor and then attempt to invite themselves to his next appts and get shut down. So naturally, MIL commented saying "we will help". I replied with "nothing we need help with" because I'm fairly sure she's not a pediatric surgeon and I'm capable of holding and comforting my own post-op one year old. She texts SO with a ton of guilt tripping "we're your family, we wanna help, i'm so sad because you didn't inform me personally and OP posted on facebook, it's our right to be there, why don't you love us anymore, let me know so i don't get attached to LO" BS and I blocked MIL and FIL on facebook and any other social media because I'm officially done with them and if finding information out on facebook is such an issue then she won't find information out at all, she won't have to get attached to my LO, and she "won't see LO until he's 18" as she likes to say (or never). There's plenty of other issues but this was the IL's last chance from me to shape up, and this proved to me that they still have absolutely no boundaries and aren't willing to respect us as parents and adults.
So his mom has been texting him things like "Please rate your childhood on a scale of 1-10" or "Please describe in detail a memory of you and your grandpa between the ages of 1-10" once a day. He took read receipts off and stopped replying.
Today his dad texted him (picture follows) and he sent me the screenshot immediately. What should he do about this? How do I help comfort him when I feel that ILs are awful and am almost glad to read this text?
I'd also like to add that MIL is referred to as mum - she's American. But she's an eccentric special snowflake. We're all American.
