gather around, my friends, especially my friends that think they'd love to be my DIL. because i just found out that it's real easy to cross over from wonderful MIL to BSC bitch.
so, i logged into FB last night to send my DIL a quick message. i thought it was very cool that though my son had to work today, she had yesterday off, so they would have a weekend together, Friday and Sunday. oh, what was that i saw? my DIL is out of town, and left yesterday morning? she left my son and my grandsons? really? i was furious. where are the boys? my son's shift is 6AM to 6AM, starting this morning and ending tomorrow morning. why wasn't i asked to watch the boys for last night or tonight? how is this all going to work out? i was ready to send a really snarky message, but instead i closed FB, and did some thinking.
1) whoever has the boys tonight, it's someone my DIL trusts explicitly. she is very careful with those little guys.
2) she didn't ask us to keep them for a night because she knows that we are both still trying to get over bronchitus (me) and a killer sinus infection (the hubs).
3) my son was in an intensive 7-month course, which left most of the work to my DIL. daycare drop offs and pick ups, dinners, laundry, she had to do everrything, where previously they had shared that load. she completely and totally deserves a break!
4) and most important. my DIL went on her weekend trip with the full support of my son. HE knew that she needed that break. if he was fine with it, why would i not be?
i only post this for educational purposes. it's all well and good to say "well, i won't do that!" and for the most part, since my kids are adults, i don't get involved or give unsolicited advice. but for just that couple of minutes, i was very nearly THAT MIL. when your babies get older, get married, and have children, remember what i nearly did, and follow my example. log off, and think about it for a few minutes.
