MIL has been holding a grudge for years now and that grudge is towards me. I thought we moved passed it and cleared the air, but recently she exploded and let everything out.
It started 4 years ago, when Hubby (then fiancé![;)]( ";)")
were going to get married. I always wanted a big ceremony, the dress, the cake, the dancing, the all that involves a big wedding. When we go engaged, my mom was the first to know because Hubby asked her for my hand in marriage. So the day we got engaged, we went to my mom's house to tell her the news. She then said if I we wanted the whole big wedding. Since being a little girl, that was my dream; so I told her yes and she suggested to elope instead, so we wouldn't spend so much money on a ceremony & and have a longer honeymoon. I took time for me to come around the idea, but eventually fell in love with it -since we were planning to stay in our honeymoon for 3 months.
We decided to tell MIL about us eloping instead and she was upset. She said she "wanted to be part of the wedding & the planning, & be there for her son". We told her we can Skype after the ceremony and said "no". Anyways, 2 months later we eloped to Bora Bora, Tahiti. The ceremony was by the clear ocean under Palm Trees, it was beautiful. We also got to pictures and video taken so we can show our families back home. After the ceremony, we Skyped with both our families -except Hubby's side because MIL didn't want to answer so we talk to his dad and older brother by a phone call. After, we just enjoyed our 3 months honeymoon in Bora Bora, everything was beautiful and perfect. I'm glad I decided to elope because if that wasn't the case, we would of had a 2 week honeymoon w/ an expensive wedding ceremony. Hubby and I enjoyed everything about our elopement. We got back home and my family were in the house with champagne and wedding gifts to celebrate our marriage (my mom took care of the house & pets and that's why she invited the family over when we got there for a small celebration) we watch the video and shared our pictures. It was a great day to start the day. The next day at noon, we decided to come over to MIL with the video and pictures to show her and she didn't open the door for us, we knew she was there because both her car and her brother's car were parked. We waited for 10 minutes and nothing.
Anyways, 2 years later MIL & I talked about it and thought it was all cleared out, but now that hubby & I are expecting our first (32w & 6d today) she decided to explode because we decided to go with the "we'll call when we are ready for visitors" when baby is here. She wanted to go with us while I will be in contraction & be those waiting warriors because she wants to be the first to see & hold her grandson. And she brought up the elopement and compared it to not seeing her grandson because she won't be the first.
So now I know she still holds the grudge towards me. But I guess I have to make the best of it and try not to make it a big deal.
Do your MIL hold a grudge towards you or plains dislike you from day one?
It started 4 years ago, when Hubby (then fiancé
were going to get married. I always wanted a big ceremony, the dress, the cake, the dancing, the all that involves a big wedding. When we go engaged, my mom was the first to know because Hubby asked her for my hand in marriage. So the day we got engaged, we went to my mom's house to tell her the news. She then said if I we wanted the whole big wedding. Since being a little girl, that was my dream; so I told her yes and she suggested to elope instead, so we wouldn't spend so much money on a ceremony & and have a longer honeymoon. I took time for me to come around the idea, but eventually fell in love with it -since we were planning to stay in our honeymoon for 3 months.We decided to tell MIL about us eloping instead and she was upset. She said she "wanted to be part of the wedding & the planning, & be there for her son". We told her we can Skype after the ceremony and said "no". Anyways, 2 months later we eloped to Bora Bora, Tahiti. The ceremony was by the clear ocean under Palm Trees, it was beautiful. We also got to pictures and video taken so we can show our families back home. After the ceremony, we Skyped with both our families -except Hubby's side because MIL didn't want to answer so we talk to his dad and older brother by a phone call. After, we just enjoyed our 3 months honeymoon in Bora Bora, everything was beautiful and perfect. I'm glad I decided to elope because if that wasn't the case, we would of had a 2 week honeymoon w/ an expensive wedding ceremony. Hubby and I enjoyed everything about our elopement. We got back home and my family were in the house with champagne and wedding gifts to celebrate our marriage (my mom took care of the house & pets and that's why she invited the family over when we got there for a small celebration) we watch the video and shared our pictures. It was a great day to start the day. The next day at noon, we decided to come over to MIL with the video and pictures to show her and she didn't open the door for us, we knew she was there because both her car and her brother's car were parked. We waited for 10 minutes and nothing.
Anyways, 2 years later MIL & I talked about it and thought it was all cleared out, but now that hubby & I are expecting our first (32w & 6d today) she decided to explode because we decided to go with the "we'll call when we are ready for visitors" when baby is here. She wanted to go with us while I will be in contraction & be those waiting warriors because she wants to be the first to see & hold her grandson. And she brought up the elopement and compared it to not seeing her grandson because she won't be the first.
So now I know she still holds the grudge towards me. But I guess I have to make the best of it and try not to make it a big deal.
Do your MIL hold a grudge towards you or plains dislike you from day one?