I've always been a lurker here and never posted. This is probably a vague question but I'm just feeling worried lately that my dislike of my MIL is pushing my SO away.
What do you think???
His mom has been through a lot (her husband passed away and then she also lost a son, my SO's older brother) she has also done a lot for us. Bought us appliances, furniture, tons of stuff for LO etc. I try really hard to like her. But right from the get go when she found out I was pregnant she responded in a way that really hurt my feelings. She's crossed boundaries like crazy and she just generally gets on my nerves even when her intentions are good.
When I vent about this to my mom or friends I feel kind of stupid because I have a hard time finding examples of things she does that make me not like her and I feel like a bad person. But just to give a few examples here, she has called my LO her baby. She has insisted she drive us home from the hospital after I give birth. She got upset when I went into L&D for contractions and didn't tell her about it. She even vented about it to a friend of hers who had the nerve to message me on facebook to guilt trip me. This same friend was involved with the situation that upset me when we first told her I was pregnant too. Hers more but you get the point... most recently she told us she's picked out the coming home outfit. She even tried to to me what to name my LO :/
I guess I'm just wondering how harsh I should be when setting boundaries with her considering she does so much for us and my SO obviously loves his mom
What do you think???
His mom has been through a lot (her husband passed away and then she also lost a son, my SO's older brother) she has also done a lot for us. Bought us appliances, furniture, tons of stuff for LO etc. I try really hard to like her. But right from the get go when she found out I was pregnant she responded in a way that really hurt my feelings. She's crossed boundaries like crazy and she just generally gets on my nerves even when her intentions are good.
When I vent about this to my mom or friends I feel kind of stupid because I have a hard time finding examples of things she does that make me not like her and I feel like a bad person. But just to give a few examples here, she has called my LO her baby. She has insisted she drive us home from the hospital after I give birth. She got upset when I went into L&D for contractions and didn't tell her about it. She even vented about it to a friend of hers who had the nerve to message me on facebook to guilt trip me. This same friend was involved with the situation that upset me when we first told her I was pregnant too. Hers more but you get the point... most recently she told us she's picked out the coming home outfit. She even tried to to me what to name my LO :/
I guess I'm just wondering how harsh I should be when setting boundaries with her considering she does so much for us and my SO obviously loves his mom