So this is about a guy I know...
We went to high school together. Rode the same school bus for many years. He was several years ahead of me, but we had talked on the bus numerous times. After high school, I worked at a restaurant and this guy would come in for lunch time to time and we would talk about how we knew each other in high school.
About a decade later, guy and his wife have twin boys! So exciting! But three months after their boys' birth, the mother/his wife passes away from the flu. Totally unexpected. We're all barely in our
Thirties. He gets breast milk donations for the twins, but he has to go back to work and daycare is expensive. His in-laws offer to help by keeping the babies most days. Friend's SIL starts a rumor that the twins aren't his, he has to go to court to prove they are. When his in-laws put out the obit, it states their daughter was a single mother. Not true - She was married to high school guy.
By now some time has gone by and the maternal grandparents have had at least physical custody for a while. Friend makes barely above minimum wage and a good lawyer drains all of his resources. He posts a desperate plea on FB for help with living situation since he opted to get a lawyer to try to get his kids back and can't afford rent AND a lawyer.
This leads me to where I am. I want to help, but we don't really have the room in our house for a roommate. He's willing to camp out in our backyard with his dog, but that seems weird. Where would he shower? Pee?
I'm conflicted as to how I can help this guy who seems to be getting screwed over so hard by his in law's and what doesn't put my family out too much.
Any ideas of what I can do aside from offering him to live with us (not ideal), or giving him money (not guaranteed to get it back, we're not super close). I know it's probably not my circus or monkeys, but I want to help.
We went to high school together. Rode the same school bus for many years. He was several years ahead of me, but we had talked on the bus numerous times. After high school, I worked at a restaurant and this guy would come in for lunch time to time and we would talk about how we knew each other in high school.
About a decade later, guy and his wife have twin boys! So exciting! But three months after their boys' birth, the mother/his wife passes away from the flu. Totally unexpected. We're all barely in our
Thirties. He gets breast milk donations for the twins, but he has to go back to work and daycare is expensive. His in-laws offer to help by keeping the babies most days. Friend's SIL starts a rumor that the twins aren't his, he has to go to court to prove they are. When his in-laws put out the obit, it states their daughter was a single mother. Not true - She was married to high school guy.
By now some time has gone by and the maternal grandparents have had at least physical custody for a while. Friend makes barely above minimum wage and a good lawyer drains all of his resources. He posts a desperate plea on FB for help with living situation since he opted to get a lawyer to try to get his kids back and can't afford rent AND a lawyer.
This leads me to where I am. I want to help, but we don't really have the room in our house for a roommate. He's willing to camp out in our backyard with his dog, but that seems weird. Where would he shower? Pee?
I'm conflicted as to how I can help this guy who seems to be getting screwed over so hard by his in law's and what doesn't put my family out too much.
Any ideas of what I can do aside from offering him to live with us (not ideal), or giving him money (not guaranteed to get it back, we're not super close). I know it's probably not my circus or monkeys, but I want to help.