Hello all. For a while now I've dealt with my fMIL and thought some of the things she did weren't normal. But for the most part I put up with it because he lived with her.
A few examples of the weirdness was telling him I wasn't allowed to move with him when he went to college (He's 20, I'm 21), telling him he wasn't allowed to see me certain days and then telling him if he didn't go two days without seeing me she would kick him out. He ended up moving in with me after that last one. She's always made me feel like she sees me as a threat.
So since DF moved in I haven't had to deal with her as DF fields all contact. I told him before I don't feel comfortable having a relationship with her.
DF is leaving for college 3 hours away on Friday. We talked about me driving up there with him since we don't have the funds for me to move just yet. He texted his mother and told her that I was going to be going and she said no.
But it gets better. I woke up this morning to him on the phone with her. He gets off the phone and said he told fMIL that I was going despite what she said because he wants me there with him. Her response was "No. I'm putting my foot down. I need this time with you." He apparently told her to take it up with me and now she's going to text me when she gets to her office!
So I guess my main question is "Is it wrong for me to want to go with DF?" And what am I supposed to say when she texts?
A few examples of the weirdness was telling him I wasn't allowed to move with him when he went to college (He's 20, I'm 21), telling him he wasn't allowed to see me certain days and then telling him if he didn't go two days without seeing me she would kick him out. He ended up moving in with me after that last one. She's always made me feel like she sees me as a threat.
So since DF moved in I haven't had to deal with her as DF fields all contact. I told him before I don't feel comfortable having a relationship with her.
DF is leaving for college 3 hours away on Friday. We talked about me driving up there with him since we don't have the funds for me to move just yet. He texted his mother and told her that I was going to be going and she said no.
But it gets better. I woke up this morning to him on the phone with her. He gets off the phone and said he told fMIL that I was going despite what she said because he wants me there with him. Her response was "No. I'm putting my foot down. I need this time with you." He apparently told her to take it up with me and now she's going to text me when she gets to her office!
So I guess my main question is "Is it wrong for me to want to go with DF?" And what am I supposed to say when she texts?